Friday, March 26, 2010
To Tell or Not to Tell- That’s the Question
I have offered this scenario to several people and I have gotten mixed responses. However, most men, well damn near every man wanted to know! If he was dating a woman that his homeboy used to date he would want to know about it. I was told it was a territorial thang with men. One example that was given to me was, say you and dude started out on the same job in the same position, now fast forward 5 years later and you are now that dude’s boss. You are now dating someone that he used to deal with. A man wants to know this! Why? I will tell you why. Because the guy who is now your subordinate is telling everyone that he used to bang the boss’s woman! He saying “Yeah you may be the boss, but I had your woman first!” After hearing this and analyzing this, I now understand why a man would want to know, TESTESTRONE!!
For women, I think it is a little different. Some women responses were if it was in the past and it doesn’t mean anything now then don’t tell. They felt as though, if it was something that really didn’t go anywhere then don’t bring it up. If it was a serious thing then yeah they would bring it up. So for women it was all about the seriousness of the situation.
I personally was kind of on the fence with this one. But after really thinking about it, I too agreed it would be best for all parties involved (or formerly involved) to disclosure this information. Then leave it to the new person to decide whether it’s a make or break the deal for the new relationship.
Hey, honesty is the best policy because what if your homegirl or homeboy run into someone that knows you used to date the “current” and you never divulged this information, how do you think it would make them feel?
I’m just saying
C Double R!
Posted by C Double R at 2:20 PM