Saturday, May 22, 2010

Menage a Trois - Is it Worth the Risk?

This is the ubiquitous fantasy of almost every man. Men have been fantasizing about this fantasy since the beginning of time and from the start of their puberty. Every time I ask a man what is his biggest sexual fantasy the first thing that comes out of his mouth is a ménage a trois, that’s if they haven’t acted on the fantasy yet. I do know men who have admitted to acting out this fantasy with either one of their buddies or two women.

I have been told if this is a fantasy that you want or planning on fulfilling it shouldn’t be with someone that you are in a serious relationship with or truly care about because you may run the risk of having your fantasy back fire on you. I had a buddy tell me that he dated this woman who helped him live out this fantasy, she had sex with him and two other women, a couple of his boys on several occasions. When she found out that he was getting married she asked him why wasn’t he marrying her and he simply stated, “I can’t married you, you slept with my boys.” At this point, she could have been Michele Obama, Halle Berry or had everything going on for herself but because he knew she slept with his boys and he was a participant in the act he lost all respect for her.

Now on the flip side, if you do carry out this fantasy with someone that you are in a serious relationship with or really care about you may find yourself left out in the cold when it’s all said and done. You may hound your woman for months at a time or even years to help fulfill this fantasy of yours and then when she finally grants your wish she could get turned out by the third party, it could be male or female and mess around either leaving or cheating on your ass with the very person you begged to bring into your bedroom. So, be careful for want you wish for because you just might get it and in the end you may be on the outside looking in.

I was told this is something that you want to do with a woman who is just your buddy and have no intentions on getting serious with or someone you’ll never see again, like someone that you and your buddy meet on vacation. I was told if a man ask you to do this then he really doesn’t have respect for you or isn’t trying to make you “wifey”. Men, is this true? What if your woman is hounding you to do a ménage a trois does this means she really doesn’t care about you, or is she just a freak?

I’m just saying?

C Double R!


  1. Hey if she wants to do it what does that say about her? She don't appreciate herself so why should dude?

  2. Damn sis, you keeps it all the way real!!!!!!!!!

  3. I have been there and the sister was cool and when I asked her I thought she would say HELL NO but she said when and where. Well with that she went from wifie to freak.

  4. Just because a guy as for a 3-way doesn't mean he isn't serious about the girl. Maybe he just wants to try something new with her.

    And any guy that would ask his girl to sleep with him and one of his boys is a fool. It's a man rule that it should always be two women. No swordfights.

  5. @ #1- How do u know? She might appreciate you just that much, if she is willing to do that for you. You have to remember women are emotional creatures and men are physical creatures and maybe she is just tryng to intertwined the two passions together to make you happy? ?
    @#2- Always!
    @#3- if this was your girl, why did you ask her, was it at this point you had no intentions on marrying her so you said WTF, I might as well ask? Just a question?
    @ Trueman - I agree about the "man" rule, however even if it is with another woman, you are still running the risk of having your woman turned out, especially if this is something that she had never done before?

    Thanks for blogging out!
    C Double R!