Monday, September 27, 2010

When a Woman's Fed Up!!

This is for the guys who think just because your woman has tolerated your bull for so long that she won’t just shut you down one day. Most women tolerate more than what they should when it comes to their mate. Women has the tendency to constantly forgive, let their men come back, accept their unfaithful ways, but please believe WOMEN never forget!

If you ever listen to the old school song “It’s a Thin Line Between Love and Hate” you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. The man describes how he comes in 5 o’clock in the morning and his woman doesn’t question where he has been and even asked if he was hungry? The next verse he sings how he’s in the hospital bandage from head to toe. Yes, this was a song about a women being fed up!

So take this as a warning guys, just because your woman isn’t addressing your wicked ways she is definitely putting them safely away in her memory bank and once that memory bank is full, watch out! I’m not saying she is going to put you in the hospital, but you could come home to an echo one day, meaning she has packed up all of her stuff and bounced. Or if you live with her, you could come home to your stuff laid out neatly on the lawn.

I’m just saying, watch how you treat people that you supposedly love, and don’t take their love for granted because one day you make wake up to a rude awakening. One more thing guys, usually when a woman is fed up there is nothing you can say or do to make her change her mind because she has reached the point of no return!

So here’s something to take away from this article, what your thoughts, because they become your words, watch your words because they become your actions, watch your actions because they become your character!

I’m just saying!!

C Double R!

Monday, September 13, 2010

Loved Up, But Not Wifed Up!

Ladies have you ever fell into the “wait until” trap with your man? Wait until I finish school, wait until we buy the house, wait until I get the promotion, wait until I get my divorce? Yes, women will actually stay with a man for years even though she knows he is still married in the hopes that one day he will get a divorce and marry her. Why do so many women fall for the “wait until” game?

The kicker is when the man says “I’m not going nowhere and neither are you so what’s the rush?” WTF!! Are you serious? That’s even more of a reason for him to put a ring on it! A woman will stay with a man for years, have babies for him, buy a house with him and he will never marry her you know why? Because she has already given him everything that a married coupled give each other which mean he doesn’t have any motivation to marry her. I’m just saying!!

Ladies stop playing house and stop putting the cart in front of the horse, make him work for your love. Put your foot down and if that means that you have to remove yourself from the situation to make him realize how lucky HE is to have you as his woman then do it! This is easier said than done, but in the end it is all worth it because at the end of the day you will know if the whole relationship is really worth your time and energy and if that man really loves you like he says he does.

If you are good enough to “portray” the image of the wife by living together, having kids together supporting him emotionally, spiritually and even financially then you should be good enough for him to put a ring on it and make it official and be called the Mrs. and not my lady, girl, love of my life, girlfriend or fiancée!

There is a huge difference between being the Mrs. and the girlfriend/fiancée. When a man introduces his woman as his wife there is an instant respect factor from other women as oppose to him introducing her as his lady or fiancée. Here’s some real talk, if you have a good man and other women know it and if you are not his wife then they see him as “still available”. If you don’t appreciate your worth and don’t make him wife you up then another “smart” woman will because she knows her worth just like she knows his.

I’m just saying!

If your mate hasn’t married you and you want to know why there are plenty of couple counselors in the Philadelphia area.

C Double R!

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Head of House- Should it be the Woman, Man or Both?

I had a very interesting conversation the other day, so of course I had to write about it, so here it goes…

I was having a conversation with a friend in regards when Barack Obama was running for the presidency. I had made mention to the fact that when Barack was on Oprah over 4 years ago and he was thinking about running for the presidency Michelle stated that this had to be a family decision because it will change the dynamics of their family and she had a career to think about too. The other party whom I was speaking to immediately stated that’s bull and the final decision is Barack’s regardless if Michelle agrees or not, however, he then went on to say he would need her full support?? WTF!! Then the other party stated the final decision should be Barack’s, who is the man of the house, period! So I shot back, that’s why they are still married because they discuss important decisions as a family unit, not independently!

So, I ask the question when it comes to important decisions for the household who should make the decision, the man of the house, the woman of the house or should it be a joined decision?

I’m just saying..

C Double R

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Dating Outside Your League!!

Time to keep it real, so let’s go! Nothing pisses me off more than having someone request something from a potential mate that they can’t even provide for themselves, you all know what I’m talking about. For example, a man who’s always talking about he only wants to date “dime” pieces. Translation, this means one of two things. He only wants to date a woman with all of the external qualities that stands out, a pretty face, banging body and very stylish. Or it could mean that he wants everything previously mentioned (outstanding physical characteristics) as well as well-educated, independent, classy and also a freak when she needs to be.

There is nothing wrong with these types of requests if you are also fulfilling the same requests for your potential mate. For example, you can’t request a dime piece, whether it’s just the physical or the full package dime piece, and your credentials aren’t up to par. You are requesting a Pamela Grier exterior but you are a Fat Albert, sorry but I’m just saying. Or you are requesting a Michele Obama and you have a G.E.D.

The bottom line is don’t request something from someone else that you can’t fulfill for yourself. Men tend to be more of sticklers for these kinds of requests than women. A financially successful woman would date a man who makes less money than her before a man would date a woman that is not his physical “cup of tea.”

Some people look to others to validate who they are and to confirm their self- worth. If you want self- worth then YOU have to create your self- worth, no one else can do that for you. Be what you like! If you like physically fit women or men then get that ass in the gym! Join the team, don’t be a spectator of the sport. If you want a successful partner, work on your own plan to be successful yourself. Trust me, when someone sees that you can bring just as much to the table as they do they will respect you more.

I just don’t respect someone who puts all of these demands on someone else in order for that person to be their mate when they can’t even hold a candle to the person that they are requesting. Really?

I’m just saying.

C Double R!