Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Ain't Nothing Going on But the Rent!

I think we all have either experienced this or know someone who has experienced this situation.

Ladies, you meet your new guy, and everything is going well. You guys are hanging out almost every day, going out to dinner, dancing, the movies and the sex is banging! In the beginning your new Boo packed an overnight bag and stayed overnight and then left in the morning. Fast forward three months down the road and this man has completely moved into your damn house, unbeknownst to you!! Dude is no longer packing an overnight bag he has taken over your underwear draw and half of your damn closet!

Now you feel like you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place because you like having him there, but at the same time your food is being depleted faster than you can replace it and the utility bills are slowly creeping up, not to mention the laundry load. You feel uncomfortable asking him to contribute financially because technically he doesn’t live there and he is still paying bills for his own house. And on top of all that, dude already have a key to your front door!

My question to you is, “Why are you the one feeling uncomfortable, especially in your own damn house?” If anyone should feel uncomfortable it should be the Guest That Wouldn’t Leave. What kind of man just takes it upon himself to move into his woman’s house without even thinking about offering to pay a bill? I tell you what, no man of mine! I think when we are in that “Honeymoon” stage of our new relationships we are so caught up that we really don’t see what is really going on around us. Ladies and men too, it’s ok to fall in love but don’t get caught up to the point where you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own home. Your home is the one place where you should feel comfortable and also feel respected in.

So just pay attention, if you feel like things are moving too fast then be like Roy Rogers and Slow Down! And always, always, always have “The Financial Responsibility That Comes With This Key Talk” before you decide to hand over your key to your new love because if not you will be living with a “Live-In Lover Who is Living Responsibility Free Off of Me!!” man!

I’m just saying…


  1. I have to agree with this one. Fellas, if you're gonna lay up in her house all the time, at least replace a few light bulbs or take the trash out. You gotta contribute.

    ...or you can do the late night creep out thing like Marcus Graham in "Boomerang"

  2. Sorry aint nothing going on but the rent, or should I said mortgage!!!

  3. @ Trueman & Anonymous, Exactly!!

    Thanks for blogging!!

  4. Watz funny is that I used to be this dude, until I got "The Boot!" BUT... I thanked her very kindly after she "put me out"... ONLINE!
    It wasn't cool how she did it, but it helped me get back on my feet! After I checked into a mens shelter, I started to receive phonecall after phonecall about jobs, and that situation truly helped me maintain! It didn't feel cool NOT being able to contribute, too!