Monday, May 23, 2011

Keeping The Sexy At Home

I had a very interesting conversation this weekend with a young man from Nigeria, Africa. He seemed like a very intelligent, nice young man, so me, always being the matchmaker told him he would be perfect for my niece once he found out I was almost old enough to be his mother. He started telling me about the traditions of his country. He said the divorce rate is very low in Nigeria. It is 20% as opposed to 50% like in the United States. He also said that most men wait until marriage to start a family, it is very rare to see a single parent mother, and if so, in most cases it is because she’s a widow. But what really struck my interest is when he made the statement that most women in Nigeria overlook the bad and focus on the good when it comes to their husband. I interpreted that as most women turn the other cheek when it comes to infidelity in their marriage. My new friend said divorce is only an option when all other possibilities have been exhausted, however, even if they are exhausted most Nigerians stay married.

When I asked him about cheating he brought up a very interesting point. He said if he happened to see a woman in the street with a sexy outfit on he wouldn’t try to sleep with her but instead he would try to find that outfit for his wife so she could look sexy in it and sleep with her. He stated why would I look outside my house to find something that I already have at home? I must say I was really impressed with this young man’s logic. I thought to myself if most men took that approach when it came to marriage and cheating there probably would be a drastic decline in the divorce rate in the world, not just in the United States.

Men please take notes from this young man, try keeping the sexy at home. Instead of looking for something that you already have at home why not try keeping the sexy in your home and between you and your wife! Try it you might like it!

I’m just saying!

C Double R!

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Loved Up! But Not Wifed up!

Ladies have you ever fell into the “wait until” trap with your man? Wait until I finish school, wait until we buy the house, wait until I get the promotion, wait until I get my divorce? Yes, women will actually stay with a man for years even though she knows he is still married in the hopes that one day he will get a divorce and marry her. Why do so many women fall for the “wait until” game?

The kicker is when the man says “I’m not going nowhere and neither are you so what’s the rush?” WTF!! Are you serious? That’s even more of a reason for him to put a ring on it! A woman will stay with a man for years, have babies for him, buy a house with him and he will never marry her you know why? Because she has already given him everything that a married coupled give each other which mean he doesn’t have any motivation to marry her. I’m just saying!!

Ladies stop playing house and stop putting the cart in front of the horse, make him work for your love. Put your foot down and if that means that you have to remove yourself from the situation to make him realize how lucky HE is to have you as his woman then do it! This is easier said than done, but in the end it is all worth it because at the end of the day you will know if the whole relationship is really worth your time and energy and if that man really loves you like he says he does.

If you are good enough to “portray” the image of the wife by living together, having kids together supporting him emotionally, spiritually and even financially then you should be good enough for him to put a ring on it and make it official and be called the Mrs. and not my lady, girl, love of my life, girlfriend or fiancée!

There is a huge difference between being the Mrs. and the girlfriend/fiancée. When a man introduces his woman as his wife there is an instant respect factor from other women as oppose to him introducing her as his lady or fiancée. Here’s some real talk, if you have a good man and other women know it and if you are not his wife then they see him as “still available”. If you don’t appreciate your worth and don’t make him wife you up then another “smart” woman will because she knows her worth just like she knows his.

I’m just saying!

C Double R!

Friday, May 13, 2011

Just Because I’m Sexy Doesn’t Mean You Can Sex Me!!

Just because I wear tight jeans that accentuate the roundness of my bottom, or a dress that compliment my curvy hips and thick thighs doesn’t mean I’m ready to jump in your bed. Just because I’m sexy doesn’t mean you can sex me!

I had a good friend of mine ask me to write about this topic. She wanted me to clear up the misconception of a sexy woman. Some men think just because a woman is sexy she is easy to sex. Now let’s examine the word sexy, shall we. There is a difference from being sexy and being trashy. A woman can be sexy in a pair of jeans and a tee shirt. The jeans may be sexy because they hug her in all the right spots and the fitted tee shirt because it highlights her assets. She is being sexy without even trying and without exposing her skin. Trashy is when a woman is drawing attention to herself for all of the wrong reasons because she have damn near all of her orifices hanging out for the whole world to see. Ladies this is not sexy this is trashy.

As my homegirl Ms. Nikki said just because I am sexy doesn’t mean I want to have sex with you. I’m sexy and classy not sexy and trashy. I’m sexy dressed up or down. I own sexy where others have to lease it with an option to buy.

So guys learn to differentiate sexy classy from sexy trashy and once you recognize the difference make sure your game is tight if you want to be with Ms. Right. If your game is weak then you may end up with the freak of the week!

I’m just saying

C Double R!

Monday, May 2, 2011

Learn The Value of Keeping Your Stuff to Yourself!

Ladies this is a very important topic. I know how it is when you first meet a guy who you think is fione as all get out and you get butterflies in your stomach when you see his name come up on your caller id or when you see his car pull up in front of your house. The first thing you say to yourself is “he can get it!” Well ladies I am here to tell you, pump the brakes!

I have learned through experience and from conversations with other women when you learn the value of keeping your stuff to yourself it’s priceless. A man will do all he can to get you in the bed if he is really feeling you physically. He will wine and dine you, take you shopping, fix things around your house, take you on trips, basically anything when he is in pursuit of the booty.

A smart woman knows the power of the “Untapped Wanted Booty” and she will use it to her advantage. Now this is not to say she is not feeling the dude but she knows the value of her body and she will not just give it to the first dude that is interested and is willing to do anything to get it. However, this doesn’t mean she won’t use it to her advantage either. However, in the interim a smart woman will also find out if dude is just interested in her booty or her being. An intelligent woman knows what the deal is. However, a smart and conniving woman will play this game for as long as she can or until dude realizes that he is just being played. So fellas just some words of advice “Game recognizes game” so make sure yours is tight.

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Sunday, May 1, 2011

By Request Another Shameka Nicole Williams Excerpt From The Forthcoming Novel "Reactions"- Coming Summer 2011

Shameka Nicole Williams
Shameka was feeling great. Tonight was just what she needed, she had been stressed out due to lack of sleep, every time she closed her eyes she kept having that same nightmarish dream that she just couldn’t shake. She seriously was thinking about seeing someone who could help her decipher these dreams and help her sleep better at night.

After reapplying her lip gloss and checking her hair in the mirror Shameka was ready to get back to Ricardo and that delicious bread pudding that kept calling her name. Shameka was so focused on getting back to Ricardo and the dessert she didn’t realized where she was walking and bumped directly into a man coming out of the men’s room.

“Oh, I’m so sorry. I wasn’t watching where I was going.” she said as she tried not to act embarrassed, even though she was very embarrassed for being so careless.

“No problem, it happens” the man said as he fixed his tie.

As he caught Shameka’s eye he realized that he knew her from somewhere, but couldn’t remember where.

“I know this sounds like a line, but don’t I know you from somewhere?” the man said as he tried to remember where he knew Shameka from.

“I’m sorry I don’t think so” Shameka said as she tried to remember whether or not she actually knew this man from somewhere, but couldn’t come up with anything.

The man’s eyes lit up when he finally remembered where he knew Shameka from.

“Now I remember! You are the one who blew me off in the restaurant bathroom in New York when I was there with my pregnant wife and kids” the man said with a dirty smile on his face as if he was replaying the whole episode in his mind

“Say uh, what are you doing later tonight? I’m in town for a couple of days and we could always pick up where we left off” the man said as Shameka could see his dick hardening as he tried to hand her his business card.

“Listen here, you little fuck. I don’t know who you think I am but you definitely got the wrong one, so I suggest you back off and get the fuck out of my way” Shameka said as she smacked the card away and started to walk back to her table.

“Oh no, there is no mistake. It was definitely you.”

That stopped Shameka in her tracks.

“Who could forget those sexy ass lips, especially when they were wrapped around my cock? And that ass, unforgettable! But hey, we all have our secrets, don’t we?” the man said as he brushed pass Shameka while grazing her ass in the process.

Shameka just stood there in disbelief. She knew the day would come when her dirty deeds would catch up to her. She did remember him, she remembered all of him.


If Titles Were Meant To Be Then They Will Happen Naturally

This is just some quick advice for those people who must have titles when they are dating someone. If you meet someone and you two are vibing and things are going well don’t stress about titles. As soon as the “title” conversation happens it could change the dynamics of the situation. My advice is just go with the flow because if titles were meant to be then they will happen naturally. If and when you are in tune with someone you will know when you two are in a “relationship” without having to bring up the “title” conversation.

This conversation can make some people uncomfortable especially when they are not ready to have this conversation. If this is the case it may actually push that person away from you and mess up the whole flow of the relationship. So again, just fall back, relax and live in the moment, if it was meant to be then it will be. Enjoy the time that you spend with this person and don’t rush the “title” conversation because it may cause you to mess up a good thing that could have been a great thing!

I’m just saying

C Double R!

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