Monday, October 24, 2011

Time For Fall Cleaning- Choice, Chance, Change

Now that summer has changed to fall is it also time to make changes in our personal relationships? I love watching the season change from summer to fall, the changing of the leaves on the trees, the cool brisk mornings and the cool night air. It’s as if nature is going through a cleanse, it’s regenerating and preparing itself for a fresh start by getting rid of all the pollution and stale air from the summer’s heat. Is this also a good time to regenerate our personal relationships?

If you have someone or people in your life that are holding you down and are non-supportive maybe it’s time to clean your personal “house of friends”. I truly believe if someone is not adding something to your life then they are definitely taking away from it. It’s up to you to decide if that “friendship” is an asset or a liability.

I believe we meet people for a reason, season or a lifetime. If you met someone who brought sadness into your life but it was a lesson learned, then that means that person was put in your life for a reason. If you met someone that you enjoyed for a short period of time but didn’t bring a significant change in your life then this person was brought into your life for a season, not for a specific reason. Then you have that person you met that no matter what happens in your life; good, bad or indifferent he or she is a constant figure, which means that person was not brought into your life for a season or a reason, but for a lifetime.

One thing I have learned in life is that you must make a choice to take a chance if you want anything in life to change, because at the end of the day, only a fool will continuously do the same thing and expect a different outcome.

I’m just saying

C Double R

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Thursday, October 13, 2011

Menage a Trois - Is it Worth the Risk?

This is the ubiquitous fantasy of almost every man. Men have been fantasizing about this fantasy since the beginning of time and from the start of their puberty. Every time I ask a man what is his biggest sexual fantasy the first thing that comes out of his mouth is a ménage a trois, that’s if they haven’t acted on the fantasy yet. I do know men who have admitted to acting out this fantasy with either one of their buddies or two women.

I have been told if this is a fantasy that you want or planning on fulfilling it shouldn’t be with someone that you are in a serious relationship with or truly care about because you may run the risk of having your fantasy back fire on you. I had a buddy tell me that he dated this woman who helped him live out this fantasy, she had sex with him and two other women, a couple of his boys on several occasions. When she found out that he was getting married she asked him why wasn’t he marrying her and he simply stated, “I can’t married you, you slept with my boys.” At this point, she could have been Michele Obama, Halle Berry or had everything going on for herself but because he knew she slept with his boys and he was a participant in the act he lost all respect for her.

Now on the flip side, if you do carry out this fantasy with someone that you are in a serious relationship with or really care about you may find yourself left out in the cold when it’s all said and done. You may hound your woman for months at a time or even years to help fulfill this fantasy of yours and then when she finally grants your wish she could get turned out by the third party, it could be male or female and mess around either leaving or cheating on your ass with the very person you begged to bring into your bedroom. So, be careful for want you wish for because you just might get it and in the end you may be on the outside looking in.

I was told this is something that you want to do with a woman who is just your buddy and have no intentions on getting serious with or someone you’ll never see again, like someone that you and your buddy meet on vacation. I was told if a man ask you to do this then he really doesn’t have respect for you or isn’t trying to make you “wifey”. Men, is this true? What if your woman is hounding you to do a ménage a trois does this means she really doesn’t care about you, or is she just a freak?

I’m just saying?

C Double R!