Never Take Someone You Care About for Granted

Ladies or fellas have you ever dated a person and they always thought you would be available to them no matter what? Yes, you all vibe and have a great time and see each other when you see each other but never no commitment.  But we ALL know this situationship can’t last forever. Eventually someone is gonna catch feelings and will want to take it to the next level. So what do you do?

I personally believe closed mouths don’t get fed. If you have developed feelings for someone you would only be cheating yourself if you didn’t address it. At least by addressing it you will have an answer either way. But please be prepared for all possible answers. If you get an answer that you are not happy with then you need to make the decision on whether or not this is something you want to continue. 

Unfortunately, sometimes you have to walk away from someone before they can truly appreciate you. I had a girlfriend who had to do this very thing. She was dating a man on and off for several years and when she was ready to get serious he wasn’t so she dated him until she couldn’t anymore. She met someone and was in a relationship for several years and when that ended she somehow relinked up with the previous guy and he explained to her how it hurt him to see her with another man and he always thought he had time with her and he realized he didn’t. They have since married and been happy for years now.

This outcome is not always typical, usually once a ship sails it’s gone. So my advice would be if you care for someone don’t wait until someone else snatches them up to confess your feelings to them. Confess your feelings when you have them or discover them or you could end up being that mouth that doesn’t get fed.  

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A Spouse Who Enables Makes for a Spouse Unstable

 

Is Texting Hurting Your Chances at a Relationship?

As our society continues to change so does the way we communicate. But the question is, is it for the better or for the worst? Do you miss the good old days when someone you were interested in called you and you would get excited when their name would pop up on the caller id? Or go back a little further and remember the days when you would get home and you would have a message from that special someone waiting for you on your answering machine. Are those days now obsolete? We currently live in an age where everything is communicated via text even in the work place. I remember when my new coworker sent my boss a text to tell her she wouldn’t be in that day. I thought that was so inappropriate to text your boss to tell them you weren’t coming to work but little did I know that would be the “new” form of communicating to our boss. We are slowly but surely losing the “true” form of communication. The “personal” element of communication is being lost in the form of texting. Now don’t get me wrong, texting is great if you want to send a quick message but it should never take the place of a meaningful phone call nor should it be the primary source of communication, especially when you’re trying to get to know someone. Texting can also be viewed as a slippery slope. You can very well text someone while participating in “behavior” you should not be taking part in all the while giving off the illusion that you are solely thinking about the person you are texting. Hence, if your significant other calls you and you don’t answer because you’re doing “something” that you know you shouldn’t be doing you can text them back and say “I’m in a meeting. I’ll call you when I get out”. In this scenario, you have satisfied your significant other (to some degree) because you acknowledged the call and stated why you couldn’t answer and will call them back as soon as you are available. It’s a slippery slope because in all reality you could really be in a meeting and your significant other may think otherwise. My advice is if you’re truly trying to get to know someone you should put forth the conscience effort to at least call more than you text. Most importantly don’t hold long in depth conversations via text messages. Some of us truly do like the good old days when we could hear someone’s voice and listen to the inflections in their voice which would give off signs of how they truly felt when they said something, unlike a text message that can be misconstrued because you can’t put emotions into a text message. Bottom line… pick up the damn phone! I‘m just saying.. C Double R Make sure you pick up a copy of my erotic suspense novel REACTIONS on www.cdoubler.com or on Amazon. If you would like for me to write about a specific topic or have a question or comment please email me at cdoubler2@gmail.com

When does sensitivity turn into too sensitive for men?

Ladies, I understand we ALL love when a man shows his sensitive side it allows us to see his emotional side. This is rare for most men because so many of them have been raised to not show this side especially when it comes to their significant other. Most men are raised to protect, honor and love their woman and family and never let them see them cry. On the other hand, you have some men who have no problem showing their sensitive side and in some cases they show it more than their woman. The question then becomes when does sensitivity turn into bitchassness?

Ladies, how do you communicate to your man that he is being too sensitive? On one hand you’re impressed that he feels comfortable enough with you to share his emotional side but on the other hand when he starts crying or wining more than you that’s when you might ask yourself how do I tell him to man up without being insensitive?

It’s a fine line when it comes to the subject “sensitivity and men”. We as women must know when and how to communicate with our man when we feel like he is being overly sensitive without emasculating him. If you start to see a pattern with his response when it comes to certain situations try to change up your approach and if he is still overly sensitive then that’s when you have to have that conversation with him. If he becomes even more sensitive when you address the issue then perhaps at that point you should realize maybe he’s just not the man for you.

Don’t get me wrong men, a good cry every now and then is a good thing, but if your man is crying more than you and is constantly wining about every little thing then maybe you two should just be shopping partners and not life partners.

I'm just saying.

C Double R

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Why there are different grace periods for men and women

Men, let’s be honest women naturally take longer than men to get ready for a date. Therefore, by now you all should be used to our tardiness. Does it make it right? No. But I am here to say it is definitely not intentional.
This is an issue that I have been working on my entire adult life.

I had a very interesting conversation this past weekend with some friends and we stumbled upon the topic of what is a sufficient amount of time to wait if your date is running late, 15 minutes, 30 minutes or an hour? I said it depends, but there is definitely a different grace period for men than women. I have no problem if a date is running late because we all know things happen. My problem is when you’re late and you DO NOT notify me that you’re running late. That’s a no no! Therefore, if you are running late and you do not notify me then you will get a fifteen minute grace period and then I’m out. However, if you call and you tell me you’re stuck in traffic or something justifiable then I will give you the benefit of the doubt and will give you a 30 minute grace period. If you’re going to be later than that then we should just reschedule the date.
The men were a little bit more generous with the grace period. The men said they would give a 30 to 45 minute grace period if she did not notify him that she was running late. Their justification: they hate public embarrassment and humiliation. Therefore, they are willing to wait a little longer in hopes that she would eventually show and save him the public humiliation.

No man or woman likes public humiliation and I truly believe that’s why women tend to arrive a little later than men in the hopes that he is already there and she doesn't have to sit and wait for him. In addition, often women like to make a grand entrance in some cases. But we all know women indeed take longer to get ready for a date than men. If you take any poll they will all reveal that women take twice, if not, three times longer to prep for a date than men.

So the very next time you plan for a date please keep these things in mind. Women tend to take longer than men, but it is also impolite and rude to not notify your date that you’re running late, regardless if it’s 10 minutes or 30 minutes. No one likes to be stood up especially in public.

I’m just saying.

C Double R

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Dispelling The 90 Day Rule

If you survive and get past the first date and things start to progress, fantastic! However, don’t put pressure on you or your potential new mate. Take it slow. Right now you may be asking yourself should I follow the Steve Harvey’s 90 Day Rule to increase your chances of having a potential successful relationship? My answer will be a resounding NO! For those of you how are not familiar with the Steve Harvey’s 90 Day Rule let me give you a quick overview. Steve Harvey believes there should be no sex prior to 90 days of meeting/dating someone. He believes this should be enough time to see whether or not you are compatible and if you have a future with someone. He believes having premature sex can alter the way you feel about someone which can result in convoluted thoughts which can mask the reality of your relationship. Basically, he believes sex gets in the way of forming a real bond with a person if you have it prior to the first 90 days of getting to know someone. Really, Steve?

Let me give you my reason why I don’t believe in the 90 Day Rule Theory and why it doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because when you’re trying to form a relationship the focus should be based on the “connection and bond” that you form not the amount of days that you know each other before you decide to have sex. So what happens on the 91st day? You can have intimate relationships because you two survived the first 90 days and everything here on out is golden? I don’t think so.

This is the biggest flaw in Steve Harvey’s theory. One should focus on the continuity, attraction, similar interests and beliefs you have with a person and not the amount of time that you spend with a person. My recommendation is to throw the calendar out the window when dating! We usually know in a relatively short period of time if we could have a “potential” relationship with someone and at other times we know when we don’t have a connection with someone.

There are usually four steps in a meaningful relationship: dating, courting, engagement and marriage. Does it mean that you shouldn’t have sex in the dating phase? Absolutely not, again, it’s about the connection and not about the calendar. There is no one blueprint when it comes to dating. Each dating experience is different.

Am I saying you should jump someone’s bones when you first meet just because there is a physical attraction? No, but what I am saying is learn to “discover” a person before you undress a person. This could happen in 30 days, 90 days or maybe 120 days there is no one “date” on the calendar or no magical number of days that is ubiquitous which determines when you should sleep with someone. That is just a ridiculous theory.

Remember, if you keep your focus on the connection, beliefs and similarities that you have with a person as oppose to the calendar I guarantee you the chances of you having a successful relationship will be much greater.

KEEP THE CALENDAR OUT OF YOUR DATING LIFE!

I'm just saying!

C Dub R

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Is being attractive a double edge sword?

Is being attractive a double edge sword? On one hand having good looks can open many doors for opportunities. It could possibly get you free entry into events, clubs, free dinners, drinks, hired and even a promotion. But on the other hand it could create unwarranted enemies and perhaps a misconceive notion about you.


For attractive women, especially single women, being attractive can definitely be a good thing. Attractive women are very often wined and dined, taken on vacations, have personal handy men and are lavished with gifts. However, this could create tension and jealousy with other females, who we will say, are not as attractive. They will often be shunned from other women who have boyfriends or husbands; they are hated on by other women and often referred to as “stuck up” by these women. Perceived notions are developed very quickly when it comes to attractive women. They are often called spoiled, conceit and superficial even before they are able to reveal their true personality.

It’s a little different for men. I had men tell me they often use their most attractive male friend to reel in the women in the club, bar on while on vacation. Men actually use their most attractive male friend as bait to get women whereas women usually ostracize other attractive women for one of two reasons. One, because they feel inferior or because they are attractive too and don’t want to compete for attention from men.

So there you have it folks. Being attractive has both, pros and cons. However, if you are an attractive person don’t let other people thoughts and attitudes toward you make you become someone that you are not. If you got it going on then you got it going on and consider it a blessing!

****Let’s discuss****

I’m just saying.



C Double R!

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Many can obtain but how many can sustain?

Many people can obtain but how many people can sustain? Sure, you may be able to “wow” them in the interview and get the job based on your acting skills, your enhance job experience, but how long can you sustain that job that you lied to get? Sure, many of us can qualify for a house or car based on credit only but how many can “really” afford the house that they live in or the car that they drive? Same as in a relationship, you may be able to attract a quality person but how long will you be able to keep that person once they start to unwrap that pretty package that you presented to them so well?

We all try to put our best foot forward when entering into a new relationship, especially when you know you have found a “diamond” among cubic zirconias. Sometimes we want to impress our new mate so badly that we enhance the things we have or about to get and hopefully “keep” that person’s attention. If we were once riding high and now fell off sometimes we tend to constantly talk about the past to boost ourselves up to impress that new “diamond” that we found. But as the saying goes “a man that constantly lives in the past don’t thinks he has a future”.

The presentation may be beautiful but after some time has pass and the bows start falling up that beautifully wrapped package that’s when you start to realize that you just have a beautifully wrapped empty box. Once you start to peel back the wrapping and remove all of the bows and take the lid off the box you realize the wrapping was worth more than the gift itself.

What’s the moral of this analogy, always be humble. Learn from your mistakes, downfalls and always live in the present and never try to relive the past. Everything in life happens for a reason, it is our job to figure out the lessons learned from our experiences whether good, bad or ugly. However, one can’t change what they don’t acknowledge. Nobody wants a shell of a person or a person who constantly live in the moment when they were “on top” and never address the present or plan for the future. If you found someone that can help you get back “on top” because they believe in you embrace that person and respect that person enough to let them help you get out of the past and start planning for your future.

I’m just saying…

C Double R!


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Just Because I'm Sexy Doesn't Mean You Can Sex Me

Just because I wear tight jeans that accentuate the roundness of my bottom, or a dress that compliment my curvy hips and thick thighs doesn’t mean I’m ready to jump in your bed. Just because I’m sexy doesn’t mean you can sex me!


I had a good friend of mine ask me to write about this topic. She wanted me to clear up the misconception of a sexy woman. Some men think just because a woman is sexy she is easy to sex. Now let’s examine the word sexy, shall we. There is a difference from being sexy and being trashy. A woman can be sexy in a pair of jeans and a tee shirt. The jeans may be sexy because they hug her in all the right spots and the fitted tee shirt because it highlights her assets. She is being sexy without even trying and without exposing her skin. Trashy is when a woman is drawing attention to herself for all of the wrong reasons because she have damn near all of her orifices hanging out for the whole world to see. Ladies this is not sexy this is trashy.

As my homegirl Ms. Nikki said just because I am sexy doesn’t mean I want to have sex with you. I’m sexy and classy not sexy and trashy. I’m sexy dressed up or down. I own sexy where others have to lease it with an option to buy.

So guys learn to differentiate sexy classy from sexy trashy and once you recognize the difference make sure your game is tight if you want to be with Ms. Right. If your game is weak then you may end up with the freak of the week!

I’m just saying


C Double R!

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Menage a Trois- Is It Worth The Risk?

This is the ubiquitous fantasy of almost every man. Men have been fantasizing about this fantasy since the beginning of time and from the start of their puberty. Every time I ask a man what is his biggest sexual fantasy the first thing that comes out of his mouth is a ménage a trois, that’s if they haven’t acted on the fantasy yet. I do know men who have admitted to acting out this fantasy with either one of their buddies or two women.


I have been told if this is a fantasy that you want or planning on fulfilling it shouldn’t be with someone that you are in a serious relationship with or truly care about because you may run the risk of having your fantasy back fire on you. I had a buddy tell me that he dated this woman who helped him live out this fantasy, she had sex with him and two other women, a couple of his boys on several occasions. When she found out that he was getting married she asked him why wasn’t he marrying her and he simply stated, “I can’t married you, you slept with my boys.” At this point, she could have been Michele Obama, Halle Berry or had everything going on for herself but because he knew she slept with his boys and he was a participant in the act he lost all respect for her.

Now on the flip side, if you do carry out this fantasy with someone that you are in a serious relationship with or really care about you may find yourself left out in the cold when it’s all said and done. You may hound your woman for months at a time or even years to help fulfill this fantasy of yours and then when she finally grants your wish she could get turned out by the third party, it could be male or female, and mess around and either leave or cheat on your ass with the very person you begged to bring into your bedroom. So, be careful for want you wish for because you just might get it and in the end you may be on the outside looking in.

I was told this is something that you want to do with a woman who is just your buddy and have no intentions on getting serious with or someone you’ll never see again, like someone that you and your buddy meet on vacation. I was told if a man ask you to do this then he really doesn’t have respect for you or isn’t trying to make you “wifey”. Men, is this true? What if your woman is hounding you to do a ménage a trois does this means she really doesn’t care about you, or is she just a freak?

I’m just saying?

C Double R

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Foreplay in the Club - Turn On or Turn Off?

This question is for both the men and the women, “Do you have a problem with your mate going to the stripper club as a form of foreplay?” I have been told several times that this is one of the best places to have foreplay because once they get home it is on and popping.


When I say foreplay, I don’t mean physical contact or sexual activity in the club, but the visual effects of it all. I have been told that it arouses the sexual desires to have sex with their mate. REALLY?? Some women will disagree with this logic. Some women feel as though if you want to be sexual aroused then it is their job to get you to that state, not some random chick you wish you could bang! I personally don’t have a problem with my man going to the club and hanging out with his boys, do you, but make sure you’re not doing anyone else in the process, you feel me?

Some women think this is just some malarkey that men (and some women) use as an excuse to go to the club and fantasize and unfortunately sometimes do more. The point being, when your mate comes home and you all are getting busy, who are you really thinking about, the stripper on the pole, or your mate? Please don’t answer that question, but in some cases I think I know the answer.

True story, I have a friend who said for her man’s birthday she took him to a strip club and for his gift, well let’s just say she had a female stripper do things to her that pleased her man so much that when they got home that night they had the best sex ever. Now, I think this is a whole other topic to blog about separately, but apparently couples do this kind of thing to add spice to their sex life.

So do you oppose your mate going to the strip club to get his/her foreplay on? Do you encourage or discourage it? Do you participate and go with him/her? Do you find it sexy or demeaning, or perhaps insulting?

I personally rather pull out the stilettos and the one piece and star in my own show from start to finish I don’t need an opening act, I like to be the only star of the show.

I’m just saying…

C Double R!

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Wanting vs. Needing Someone- Learn from Phaedra and Apollo

I had a very interesting conversation with a friend today. Let me describe this person to you. This is an attractive mid twenty –something young lady who has a lot going on for herself. She owns her own house, car, has a good job, very ambitious, no children and is currently in graduate school at an Ivy League university. She has a great personality and is very giving and loving when it comes to her boyfriend.


Her boyfriend is not as far along as she is in life. He is not college educated, works two jobs to maintain and to fix up his house. He’s not able to lavish her with expensive gifts but this is ok with her because she loves him for him, period. Here’s the problem, he has a problem because she doesn’t need him but want him.

The other day they had an intense conversation and she was trying to explain to him that she doesn’t need him because she can support herself financially, but she wanted him because she loved him. His response was if you don’t need me then maybe I should just leave since you don’t need me. So she came to me today and I could tell that she was very frustrated and didn’t know what to do because she felt like he misconstrued what she said to him. My response to her was that she needs to sit him down and explain the difference between wanting and needing a person.

Just because a person needs you don’t necessarily mean they love you. They may need you because you take care of them financially, sexually or do other things for them that enhance their life. However, when someone wants you most of the time it is because they truly love you for you and not what you can do for them. So Fellas when your woman tells you that she wants you, but don’t necessarily need you take it as a compliment and not an insult. Would you rather be with a woman who wants you for you or need you because of what you can do for her and really never know if she truly loves you?

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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The Age Old Question: Light Skin vs. Dark Skin

Is light skin still preferred over dark skin, when it comes to our sistas? I was listening to the radio driving to work and I caught an interview on how Gabrielle Union constantly compares herself to other women, especially light skin sistas. She made a statement in a magazine interview how she has a complex about her nose and how she always scan the room to see if there are any light skin women in the room that looks better than her? WTF!! Are you serious?? I have personally met this woman and this woman is simply gorgeous, naturally (no plastic surgery of any kind)! She could easily pass for twenty-something, the woman is pushing 40!!


Why do women, especially beautiful women always compare themselves to other women? Are we that uncomfortable in our own skin that we can’t accept ourselves as we are? I will admit, I noticed as early as kindergarten that the boys always liked the light skinned, light eyes, long hair little girls. Us little chocolate drops with nappy hair didn’t stand a chance.

True story, when I was a kid in grade school I had a major crush on this guy, I use to send him little notes asking him to be my boyfriend, check the box; yes, no, or maybe (Yall Oldheads remember those notes?). I use to daydream about him all the time. Of course he always went for the light skinned, long hair pretty girls and never paid chocolate drop, nappy headed little old me no attention. Now fast forward to a few years ago, I ran into this dude and he was all over me, telling me how beautiful I looked, and how I filled out well (I was a flat-chested string bean all the way up to high school) and how sexy I was. I was like dayumm, I felt like Mike Jones, “Back in the day you didn’t want me!” The ironic thing about the whole story is that he ended up marrying a short hair, beautiful dark skinned sista. Go figure!

So do most men still prefer light skinned women or dark skinned women? When I was younger I always wished I had straighter hair, but I never wanted to be light skin. I love the complexion of my skin, I wouldn’t change it for nothing in the world. However, when you turn on the television and you see these actors, athletes and even politicians with either a very light skinned black woman or white woman, it really makes you wonder, wow, a dark sista just don’t stand a chance!

I think some black men today just like a variety of women, dark, light, different ethnicities, short, tall, etc., and some just still prefer light or white and would never look at a dark skinned woman as being beautiful. The ironic thing is most of these brothas are dark brothas! So I ask these brothas, do you have self hatred? Do you dislike yourself because of your skin tone and/or your race? Because what I have learned is that you can’t hate the root of the tree and love the tree. You must love yourself as a whole. Embrace that chocolate skin that you are in. I personally love my black, dark chocolate brothas, wouldn’t have it any other way!!

So I ask the question is light skin still better than dark skin?

I’m just saying???

C Double R!

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Is Your Fantasy Your Reality?

I had a reader ask me this very question. He said he overheard his wife and her girlfriend discussing their fantasies and some of them were to have sex with a strange man. He wanted to know if this was just fantasy or is this something that women eventually act out? Well, that depends on the woman.


Most women fantasize, but very few actually act out their fantasies. A lot of women live vicariously through other people or things to fulfill their fantasies. They could live them out by watching porn, through their girlfriend’s sexual escapades, erotic books or by being a voyeur.

Believe it or not, your wife’s fantasies could add a little spice to your sex life. She could act out her fantasies by role playing with you. You could be that tall dark stranger that she fantasizes about and have the best sex ever.

So men don’t hate, participate, help your wife act out her fantasies to ensure that she doesn’t try to act them out with someone else. The mind is a powerful thing and just because we think about something doesn’t necessarily mean that we will act it out. Sometimes it’s refreshing to live vicariously through our fantasies, we all do it and we all have them.

However, if your mate is not sexually satisfied and continuously have an insatiable desire for sex, this can increase the probability of her acting out her fantasies with a stranger. Communication is key. Talk to your mate about her fantasies, ask her why they turn her on and try to help her live them out, with you. You may discover something about your mate you didn’t know before and like it! Better yet, you may discover something about yourself and love it!

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Loved Up But Not Wifed Up

Ladies have you ever fell into the “wait until” trap with your man? Wait until I finish school, wait until we buy the house, wait until I get the promotion, wait until I get my divorce? Yes, women will actually stay with a man for years even though she knows he is still married in the hopes that one day he will get a divorce and marry her. Why do so many women fall for the “wait until” game?


The kicker is when the man says “I’m not going nowhere and neither are you so what’s the rush?” WTF!! Are you serious? That’s even more of a reason for him to put a ring on it! A woman will stay with a man for years, have babies for him, buy a house with him and he will never marry her you know why? Because she has already given him everything that a married coupled give each other which mean he doesn’t have any motivation to marry her. I’m just saying!!

Ladies stop playing house and stop putting the cart in front of the horse, make him work for your love. Put your foot down and if that means that you have to remove yourself from the situation to make him realize how lucky HE is to have you as his woman then do it! This is easier said than done, but in the end it is all worth it because at the end of the day you will know if the whole relationship is really worth your time and energy and if that man really loves you like he says he does.

If you are good enough to “portray” the image of the wife by living together, having kids together supporting him emotionally, spiritually and even financially then you should be good enough for him to put a ring on it and make it official and be called the Mrs. and not my lady, girl, love of my life, girlfriend or fiancée!

There is a huge difference between being the Mrs. and the girlfriend/fiancée. When a man introduces his woman as his wife there is an instant respect factor from other women as oppose to him introducing her as his lady or fiancée. Here’s some real talk, if you have a good man and other women know it and if you are not his wife then they see him as “still available”. If you don’t appreciate your worth and don’t make him wife you up then another “smart” woman will because she knows her worth just like she knows his.

I’m just saying!

If your mate hasn’t married you and you want to know why there are plenty of couple counselors in the Philadelphia area.

C Double R

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Looking for Mr. Fix It Chick

Hey Fellas, have you ever met that woman that is always utilizing you for your skills? Asking you can you come over, my toilet won’t flush? Can you take a look at my electric, my lights keep flickering? Can you check my brakes, they keep making a funny noise? Can you redo my kitchen floor, its warped? And in return she fixes you dinner, give you some nookie and keep your number on speed dial!


This is the woman who will not date a man if she doesn’t think he can benefit her in some way? He has to be handy like an electrician, plumber, mechanic, or a carpenter, shoot even a barber if she has sons! If he ain’t useful then he ain’t worthy. This kind of woman scopes out men that can help her in some shape, form or fashion. She looks at it as a barter situation. You do something for me and I will do something for you. If you fix my sink, I’ll give you some food and a drink. You fix my brakes I’ll kiss the snake. If you fix my floor I’ll show you the entrance to my bedroom door.

See Fellas, she doesn’t see anything wrong with this. Besides, you’re getting what you want and she is getting what she wants. Therefore, the both of you are getting satisfied. I’m just saying, recognize the game. Don’t think just because she constantly invites you over that she is really into you. Now ask yourself this question, “Every time you go to her house does she ask you to fix or look at something, while the fried chicken is cooking on the stove and mac and cheese is baking in the oven? Or if nothing is cooking does she come to the door in a skimpy outfit or better yet a towel wrapped around her saying she just stepped out the shower then asked you to look at something that is broke? Men this is part of the mental seduction so she can get what she really wants, which is her damn stove fixed!! Dummy!!

And you’re the same man who is going around bragging saying she is feeling you, because every time you go over to her house she got food ready for you or something sexy on. All the while not mentioning what you have to do to get that damn food and her! Some men are so easily distracted when it comes to a sexy woman and a tasty plate of food. Men, when will you learn to read between the lines? Now, if you do read between the lines and you’re cool with that, then so be it. But please don’t think just because a woman is doing all of this for you and to you that she is really into you! Remember women are some of the most conniving creatures walking the planet and we definitely know how to get what we want without you ever realizing it.

I’m just saying….



C Double R

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Act Like a Lady But Be a Freak in the Bedroom

We all heard of the saying you can’t make a freak into a wife, but you can definitely make a wife into a freak. Let’s keep it real people, men love an uninhibited woman in the bedroom. Most women don’t realize their sexuality until their mid to late thirties or early forties, in some cases, never!


The sex novelist Zane said she realized she was a sexual person at a very early age in life, that’s very rare, especially for a woman. She said she embraced her sexuality very young and always enjoyed sex. Growing up most women are told to act like a lady, ladies don’t do that, let him take control when it comes to sex. So when a woman wants to get “buckwild” in the bedroom most of the time she doesn’t because she is constantly thinking about all of the things that she was told as a young woman.

I believe the older a woman becomes the more in tune she is with her body and because of that she is more uninhibited in the bedroom when it comes to sex. She knows how to please her man and is not afraid of showing it.

A mature woman knows and accepts that she has sexual desires, just like a man and it isn’t unlady like to express those desires when it comes to your man, it may even help you keep your man! A man loves a woman who embraces her sexuality and doesn’t hold back in the bedroom. Men love when their women take control in the bedroom and ladies if you only knew the power you had in the bedroom, you would embrace your sexuality with the quickness!

So ladies, I demand you to embrace your sexuality and show your man what you’re working with. Live out your fantasies, your wildest dreams and turn your man out!!

Because if you don’t step up your game in the bedroom he might find another player to substitute you!

I’m just saying!

Read excerpts from Reactions:

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Ain’t Nothing Going on But the Rent!

Draws in the drawer, but no money for the bills, when should you ask your new live-in lover to help pay bills? I think we all have either experienced this or know someone who has experienced this situation.


Ladies, you meet your new guy, and everything is going well. You guys are hanging out almost every day, going out to dinner, dancing, the movies and the sex is banging! In the beginning your new Boo packed an overnight bag and stayed overnight and then left in the morning. Fast forward three months down the road and this man has completely moved into your damn house, unbeknownst to you!! Dude is no longer packing an overnight bag he has taken over your underwear draw and half of your damn closet!

Now you feel like you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place because you like having him there, but at the same time your food is being depleted faster than you can replace it and the utility bills are slowly creeping up, not to mention the laundry load. You feel uncomfortable asking him to contribute financially because technically he doesn’t live there and he is still paying bills for his own house. And on top of all that, dude already have a key to your front door!

My question to you is, “Why are you the one feeling uncomfortable, especially in your own damn house?” If anyone should feel uncomfortable it should be the Guest That Wouldn’t Leave. What kind of man just takes it upon himself to move into his woman’s house without even thinking about offering to pay a bill? I tell you what, no man of mine! I think when we are in that “Honeymoon” stage of our new relationships we are so caught up that we really don’t see what is really going on around us. Ladies and men too, it’s ok to fall in love but don’t get caught up to the point where you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own home. Your home is the one place where you should feel comfortable and also feel respected in.

So just pay attention, if you feel like things are moving too fast then be like Roy Rogers and Slowwww Down! And always, always, always have “The Financial Responsibility That Comes With This Key Talk” before you decide to hand over your key because the last thing you want or need is a grown ass man as a dependent!!

I'm just saying..

C Double R

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Ladies, Stop Being the Pit Stop and Learn to Be the Final Destination When it Comes to Men

Some women constantly ask themselves how did I end up in this situation again. How come I am never the main woman, but always the side woman? I am a caring loving woman, but why do I always give my love to the wrong man? Because you ALLOW it! Period!


Only a fool will continue to make the same mistakes and expect different results. If you allow a man, or anyone for that matter, to take advantage of you then they will. We have to learn to man up and be a woman. We have to stop letting men mistake our kindness for our weakness.

Here’s a little advice, when you meet a man make sure you are asking the pertinent question, therefore if anything every pops up he can’t ever use that excuse “Well, you never asked!”. You should always ask a man from the gate these five important questions:

Are you Married?

Do you have a girlfriend?

Do you live with anyone?

Do you have any baby momma drama?

Are you bi, tri or straight?

If you ask these five important questions and the answers rolls off his tongue, whether you like the answers or not then that’s a good sign because for the most part at least you know he’s an honest man. If he hesitates to answers these questions, proceed with caution or turn around and walk away. This could mean he has something to hide.

However, if a man is straight up with you and tells you that he is married or has a girlfriend and you still get involved with this man than shame on you and you are free to label yourself a “pit stop”. A pit stop meaning he comes to you to replenish himself and to get re-energized so he can make it to his final destination, his main woman. You are solely a Pick-Me –Upper in route to the main destination.

So ladies, if you are tired of being a pit stop then stop allowing a man to refuel, get new tires and mechanical repairs and adjustments at your emotional and physical expense in route to his final destination.

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

Read excerpts from Reactions:


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Display what you say - so there is no room for doubt

Most people can talk a good game, but most people don’t display a good game. People can talk a good game from playing sports, cooking, work, and most importantly, especially when it comes to relationships. But the question is, “Are you really displaying what you’re saying?”


Most people will tell you what they think you want to hear just so there can get what they really want whether its sex, money, trips, shopping sprees or a place to shack up. Unfortunately, for some it’s all about “me, me, me” and not “us, us, us” and the unsuspecting person usually doesn’t find this out until after the other person has gotten what they wanted.

Read the signs people. It’s that simple. If someone is telling you that they love you, but not displaying it, more than likely they have a hidden agenda and only telling you what you want to hear. If this person is continuously disappointing you because they don’t display what they say and is always letting you down, more than likely they don’t care about you the way they claim they do. Unexpected things sometimes happen but when this becomes the norm it’s just an excuse for the person to get out of what they promised you when they never had any intentions on doing it in the first place.

When a person cares for you and loves you they will not only show it to you, but to the world. This article was actually inspired by a Facebook post. Case and point, a young man was repeatedly getting inboxed by a young lady whom already knew he was in a committed relationship but still continued to inbox him anyway. The young man became so frustrated he put her on blast on Facebook, but was kind enough to omit the young lady’s name. He kindly stated that he was happily in a relationship which was heading towards marriage and if she continued to inbox him he would reveal her inboxed messages to all his Facebook friends. This is of course, after he repeatedly told her he was not interested and he was in a committed relationship. This, my friends, is displaying what you say.

I’m just saying...

Read excerpts from Reactions:


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