Thursday, July 30, 2009
This is the kind of chick that will not pressure the married man that she is dealing with. She respects his space and knows her place and everything is all good to her. Think about it, most men in this situation in the beginning thinks, “ Damn this is cool. I get to see her, take her out, take mini trips (when I can get away), get some nookie, and no strings attached? Damn, I hit the jackpot.” Yeah this is what you think until she flips the script on your ass.
Most fellas think this is a sweet deal until they get all caught up. Yeah I said it, CAUGHT UP! Fellas, do you really think this woman is sitting by the phone waiting for you to call while you’re home with your wife and kids? NOT! Do you really think she is saving all of her loving just for you? Hell no, aint no Whitney Houston popping with this chick. While you’re home with your wife and kids she out enjoying another woman’s husband. Oh yeah, this women is a habitual dater of married men. So while you all are out there living in “It’s sweet like that land” she is giving her attention and loving to the next married man.
This is a woman who is either afraid of commitment or a woman who has a Fuck it attitude about men. This attitude usually is developed after a woman has been repeatedly hurt by men. This is the woman who probably once in her life was the most caring, committed woman in the world when it came to relationships. But after being dogged out time after time by no good men she decided to say fuck it and use them for all that she can. So for all of you married men who is dealing with this kind of chick don’t think you are the only one, because trust, you are not!
Most women who only date married men are usually cool about the arrangement, but I must warn you, so women do it strictly for revenge and will try to fuck your shit up! They will describe the whole interior of your house to your wife, for those of you who are dumb enough to bring another woman to your home. Describe every part of your body, especially your penis! She will recall dates and times that she know you told your wife you were doing something else, like working late, hanging with the guys, or on a business trip. Oh yeah, there are some devious, evil, only married men dating chicks out there who will wreck your shit if you let her!
Now on the flip side, some men get caught up too! The problem is men don’t like the thought of any women that they are dealing with, and especially have feelings for, fucking another man, or even keeping another man’s company. See, this kind of woman is cool like that, she has a “do you” kind of attitude because she has conditioned herself to be this way. Most men can’t handle this and become possessive forgetting the fact that he has a wife and kids at home. When a man is caught up, this kind of shit will drive him crazy and then he starts doing crazy shit to match his crazy thoughts. Like midnight drive-bys, calling 30 times a day, and questioning her every move.
Unfortunately, I have a friend who worked with a husband and wife, and everyone knew that the husband was cheating on the wife. Everyone loved the wife at work and couldn’t stand the husband because they knew what he was doing to her. This man had a baby on his wife and the wife was woman enough to accept the child and in addition to that, he was also seeing another woman with whom he became obsessive over. When this woman tried to break it off with him he went to her home and shot and killed her in her car while she was getting ready to take her daughter to school. So word to the wise, it’s all fun and games until someone gets hurt, literally.
So to the ladies and the men who like to get down in this way, watch what you do to others because the shit might come back to bite you on the ass or worst!
C Double R
Sunday, July 26, 2009
This is the type of woman who will support a man, visit him and marry him in prison, stay with him even if he abuses her verbal and/or physically. This is the woman who is just proud to say she has a man. She is also the kind that constantly talks about her man, my man this and my man that, all the while her friends are looking at her like she is a damn fool. Oh she knows deep down inside her man aint shit, but at least she has one. She also likes to brag about her man to her single girlfriends especially the attractive ones, basically to say I have a man and you don’t!
She is the kind that will tolerate almost anything. If she found her man in bed with her sister, mother or brother she would probably stay with him. This is the woman that would stay with her man even if he asked her for a threesome and he starts seeing the other chick on the side. She would make herself a lesbian for this man if he asked her to. She will move her man into her house after two weeks of dating and think nothing of it. She would serve her man shrimp for dinner while her kids eat oodles of noodles. She will wait on him hand and foot even after working a twelve hour shift.
I Need a Man Chick is sort of like the Ride of Die Chick, but on a much lower level. Even the Ride or Die Chick has her limits and most importantly, self respect. This chick doesn’t know what a limit is or self respect!
This is a woman who has very low self-esteem and often thinks she is not worthy of a good man so any man that pays her attention will do. She could be a woman that was teased growing up, obese, called unattractive by others, or even abused as a child. Therefore, her self-esteem was just sucked out of her and she doesn’t have the strength to try to regain it.
This type of woman can come from any socio- economical background. This could be a well–educated woman, a hood woman, or a middle class woman. I have a girlfriend who is very attractive, good job and have plenty of common sense. However, she has been seeing someone in the entertainment industry and she allows and accepts his shit because she is so in “awe” with this guy. Now this guy was in a group that was extremely popular in the late eighties early nineties, but hasn’t done shit since then. But because he is still well known from being in the group I guess she feels like she is dating a celebrity and boy does she pays for it. She has confessed to me that this guy has slept with her cousin, disrespected her in public in front of her friends and family and she still continues to see him. This is a woman that has experience true heartbreak from a man that she was truly in love with and ever since then she has not been right since. She has not been in a “real” meaningful relationship since.
If a single woman constantly talks about past relationships and can’t focus on the present, this could be a sign of I Need a Man Chick. Men, if you meet a woman and she constantly asks you questions about you and doesn’t want to answer any questions about herself, this could be a sign. Also, if she projects a low self-esteem this is a key sign. Most of these women are all about pleasing a man at any cost. She will pay for the dates, give money she doesn’t have, participate in sexual acts that she is not comfortable with, all to make a man happy.
This kind of woman does not know herself worth. She doesn’t realize she is a diamond in the rough. This is a woman who wants to be loved so bad that she will forfeit our own happiness for it. She believes she is worthless without a man. My motto is if you can’t be happy with yourself what makes you think that someone else will be? We have to learn to love ourselves first, and learn to enjoy our own company before we start inviting others into our world.
Most men take advantage of these kind of women because they see them as an easy target. Unfortunately, most men actually prey on these kind of women and use them for everything that they have. In the beginning they will make the woman think that they are really into them. Make them think that they are the most beautiful creature in the world just so they can continue to use her. Because she is such an easy target this is not a hard thing to do.
So men, if you happen to meet a woman like this and if you chose to use her instead of helping her then you are only perpetuating her ill image of herself and basically need your ass whipped!!
Thursday, July 23, 2009
When I was in graduate school I took a class and we had a doctor come in and explain the N.E.C (Neuro Emotional Complex). He basically explained that people tend to gravitate toward situations that they are use to. It doesn’t always mean it is the “best” situation, but it is a situation that they are familiar with and feel comfortable and therefore they think they can handle themselves in that situation.
Women tend to stay with abusive men for one of three reasons. One, they are afraid that if they do leave that he will find her and he will harm her, or worst, kill her. Two, he has beaten her down so much emotionally and physically she doesn’t feel like any other man would want her because she doesn’t find herself worthy. Thirdly, she stays because this is what she is use to, period.
Unfortunately, most of these situations end up badly. In some cases the woman is beaten so badly the injuries are permanent or her family is planning her funeral much earlier than what they expected. Also, sometimes when a woman finally gets out of an abusive relationship she tends to be suspicious of every man she meets and usually shy away from men altogether. The other scenario is if she does find a man that truly loves her and don’t beat her then she doesn’t feel like he truly loves her. If he is not blackening her eye or throwing her down the stairs then she is suspicious of his non-abusive love. This is a sad truth.
Women like this also tend to start and pick fights with the new man to test his love for her. They will jump in his face punch, hit and kick him until they get a response out of him, hopefully an abusive response, because in her twisted confused mind this would validate his love for her. Men who are put in this situation will usually do one of three things. They will eventually respond in an abusive manner, after being provoked so many times. Two, just leave. Or three, try to seek help for the woman. The third choice is the best choice. If the man seeks counseling for him and the woman that he loves then he is putting her on the right path to break the cycle of abuse.
Fellas, when you met a woman like this, and you are really feeling this woman, don’t just walk away try to help her and instead of telling your Homies that this B’s crazy. Recognize that she is hurting and subconsciously crying out for help. We so often in our society turn our backs on the ones that are hurting and instead of helping we tend to ostracize them from others because we think and call them crazy. Abusive women need love too, they may not always show it, or admit it, but they do.
Really didn’t want to get that deep on the blog, but it is what it is. My role is to inform men of all kinds of women, even if it is an ugly truth.
C Double R
Monday, July 20, 2009
Oh yes, I had to go there, because these type of women exist and in abundance. Have you ever heard of the saying, “Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer?” Well in this case, sista is keeping her enemy a little too close. Unbeknownst to her she is giving up the tapes to the wrong person. Ladies, you know how it is when you meet that dude and he put it on you so good you can't wait to tell your girlfriend, and don’t omit one thing or one position (lol)?
These types of women are usually very good friends to other females. My assumption is one of two reasons, or maybe both. One, because they always want to have access to your business and your man and two, they feel so damn guilty they have no choice but to be nice to your naïve ass.
I know some men are thinking right now as they are reading, “Shit, what is wrong with that?” They feel like, “I’m getting two for the price of one.” Or thinking, “What my girl don’t know won’t hurt her.” I know some of you men right now are thinking, “So tell me C Double R, how can I spot this one?” Well, here’s an example, have you ever been in a club and you got your eye on one special lady, but her girl is undressing you with her eyes even though she knows you want her girl and every time you try to go in for the number she interrupts you? This could be a sign of a Backstabbing Chick. If you go to your woman’s house and she is waiting on you hand and foot, more than your woman and is always prancing around you with some skimpy shit on, this could be a Backstabbing Chick. Or constantly saying how your woman is so lucky to have you and always giving you compliments and always making up an excuse to touch you, this could be a Backstabbing Chick. Finally, if she is always comparing herself to your woman around you, then this could be a Backstabbing Chick.
But the most obvious sign is when she is constantly coming on to you when your woman is not around. Now, I am not saying all brothers fall for this and not all brothers are dogs, but if a brother keep getting a bone thrown at him he is eventually go to bite it. Fellas, that’s why you nip that shit in the bud from the gate, because if you don’t things can really escalate to the point of no return. Then you have a bunch of people with hurt feelings or no feelings, if you get what I am saying.
I know this chick, very nice, into church, sweet and will help you with anything, if it’s in her power. But this is the same chick that acts all cool with her “buddy’s girlfriend” all the while screwing her buddy every chance she gets. She acts like she likes the girlfriend and come to the buddy’s functions and hang around their friends, but as soon as no one is watching or is around, they are getting busy. But the kicker is, she thinks nobody knows when everybody knows!! See, this is the prime reason why I do not have a lot of girlfriends and never have. Because some women are the most conniving, ruthless, back stabbing creations walking the face of the planet. Yes, I said it, but I didn’t say all. Actually, there are more true girlfriends than fake ones in the world, so let me say that before I get backlash from the ladies.
Fellas, some of yall may think this is a sweet deal, but you better think before you react because if you don’t you may get more than what you bargain for. Let’s just say, if you haven’t seen the TV series “Snapped” on WE Television station, check out an episode and you will get my drift. Everything that looks good to you, aint always go for you, or better yet, just because it’s free does mean it is for me!!!
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Fellas have you ever met that perfect woman? She’s independent, fine, have her own car, house, money and don’t mind treating you to dinner or surprising you with a gift or two. She’s just that bad that she have you thinking to yourself, damn I finally found that perfect woman. She got her own shit, great in bed, and she can hold it down on her own. You’re thinking you hit the jackpot, until you get into that first heated argument. Boy, that’s when you think to yourself, “What the fuck did I just get myself into?” It goes a little something like this, “Jigga I don’t need you, I want you, don’t get it twisted. So let’s be clear. I’ve been taking care of myself before you came along and will continue to do so after you are gone! I don’t know who the hell you think you are because I am an independent woman and I don’t need a man for shit. “Sounds familiar? And this is all being said because you asked her did she need help with the groceries!
See men, independent women are very hard to gauge. Sometimes they want a man to take control and at other times they need to be in control because they don’t know how not to be in control in certain situations. Most women are in control because of one of two reasons. One, they were either forced to be in control or two, they have the desire to be in control.
Unfortunately, these are the women who don’t understand that every woman needs a man. It’s not in a woman’s makeup to be a man. Period. Yes, women should be very proud that they can support themselves, take care of their business and don’t have to answer to anyone, but that doesn’t mean that deep down inside that they don’t want and desire a man to protect them. More often than not, independent women inadvertently push men away. Yes, most men love independent women, but they don’t want to be reminded every day that they are with an independent woman and constantly reminded that she don’t need him, but she wants him. That shit get old real quick with most men.
One thing I learned is that a man needs to feel needed because if he doesn’t then he feels emasculated. It’s in a man’s make up to be the provider, the protector and the head of the family and when a woman takes that away from him he feels inadequate. This is the one thing that the independent woman just can’t seem to understand, no matter how many degrees she has hanging on her wall. This is the reason why most independent women ask the same question, “Why is my bed always so cold?” This is the reason! Learn to let a man be a man, even if he doesn’t make as much money as you, or if he’s not as educated as you, or doesn’t have a high power job like you. Let the man be the man, damn it!!
Men, so I know you are asking well how can I tell when a woman thinks like this? Well there are signs. If a woman never let’s you pay for anything and always brag about how much money she makes and wants to compare paychecks. That’s a sign my brother. If a woman is always telling you how much she paid for this or that, and shows you the receipt. That’s a sign. And most importantly if she always want to ride you and never let you ride her while having sex. That’s definitely a sign.
These are all signs letting you know that she don’t need you and she is constantly telling you this when she does these types of things. There could also be another underlying reason why she does these things. Insecurity. When women have to constantly brag about their money, possessions, and or looks this is usually because they are trying to mass some other insecurity. It’s the same as when a little man buys a huge truck, or an older man buys a red corvette or gets a tattoo. We all do things to mass some kind of insecurity that we have about ourselves, whether it is big or small.
We women have to learn to let it go and let the man lead and learn to follow sometimes. Because if we continue to poke our chest out like we are the king of the jungle all the masses will find another location to habitat. I define myself as an independent woman, but I am not an overly aggressive independent woman. Can I handle my business? Yes. Am I educated? Yes, with a Masters from an Ivy League University, but is this brought up in the very first conversation I have with a man I just met? No. Fellas, this is another sign. If you meet a woman and she is telling you or better yet showing you her portfolio on your first date, run.
Now the flip side of this is that most independent women are very selective and very picky when it comes to dating men. For instance, I have several girlfriends who are educated, attractive and independent, who will only date a man of a certain caliber. They don’t look at potential they look at the current situation and if it is not up to their standards then they will not give the man the time of day. So fellas, if we are keeping it real let’s do just that. Don’t approach a well dressed classy sophisticated woman if your shit aint tight. So to save you the embarrassment, know what you working with and when in doubt move on, there are more fish in the sea. I know that sounds harsh but unfortunately there are a lot of shallow people in the world including independent women.
Now, there are different classifications of independent women. Just because a woman is educated doesn’t mean she’s independent or just because a woman is not educated doesn’t mean she’s not independent. Being independent simply means handling your business. You could be living at home with your parents and working two jobs and going to school, that’s flexing your independence. You could be a single parent mother with no assistant from the government, that’s flexing your independence. Then there’s the independent woman that most are familiar with, the well-educated, high power position independent woman. All these women have one thing in common, strength. So when an independent woman meets that perfect man it is hard for her to relinquish her power because she has been programmed for so long to be that way.
Fellas, I am not saying that all independent woman her bossy, or hard to deal with, I am saying just understand the type of woman that you are dealing with because it does take a special breed of a man to deal with an independent woman. When a woman is forced to be in the position of power she gets use to holding that position and it is hard to let go and let someone else hold that position for her.
It goes back to the fact that every woman doesn’t understand that she needs a man. One of my favorite songs is by Mary J. Blige, it is called “Father Figure”. In the song she speaks about how it was hard for her to be in a relationship and to keep a man because she never knew her father and she didn’t know how to relate. It also talks about how every woman needs a man and how some women don’t understand that fact. We all want a man to be our protector, our leader and some women think if they admit to that then they are giving up their power and independence. But in fact, what they are really doing is keeping it real and being a woman, the way God created a woman to be.
One thing I do think independent women understand is that it doesn’t take a man to complete them. A man should be an addition to not a completion of a woman. I will speak a little more depth on this topic in later chapters. Now if the independent woman can just learn to share the independence then I believe she could be in a much better situation when it comes to relationships with men.
Men I am not saying if you don’t make six figures, live in a nice house, and drive a nice car that you don’t have a chance with an independent woman. Again, independent women have different classifications and all independent women aren’t superficial or bitches. There are independent women who will support a man who is trying to pull himself up to be a better man. However, you also have independent women who like to tear a brotha down when he is trying to pull himself up to her level, financially. This is where that insecurity piece comes into play. Fellas listen, if you are a hard working man, supports his lady emotional and spiritually and she doesn’t appreciate it because you can’t support her financially, then she’s not the one for you. Period.
Learn to read the signs that women put out every day. Also, stop getting caught up on the physical and learn to be more in tune with the emotional. Once you can learn to do that, that’s when you can become a master at whether or not a specific woman is the woman for you.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Now this is a chick that every man wants by his side. I also called this chick The Mary Jo Buttafucco chick. This woman caught a bullet to the head, which is still lodged in her head today, by her husband’s teenage lover and she still went to bat for his cheating ass. She actually stayed with him for years after the incident until she finally got tired of his philandering ways and decided to divorce him. But this woman took a bullet, literally, because of this dude and stood by his side everyday in the courtroom to show her support for her cheating husband. Now, that’s a true Ride or Die Chick.
This is the kind of woman that will not get shook when she finds out that her man is cheating, or when her man loses is job or go to jail, because regardless what everybody else sees she only sees the man that she loves.
I knew a young lady whose man was in the game hard. He had a reputation throughout the city. Now this dude was every bit of 300 pounds, but he was a sharp dresser, and really fly and when women saw him they saw dollars signs, so he had his choice of women. One day we were having a conversation about our men. I must admit, back then I didn’t understand the definition of a Ride or Die Chick, but I understand it now. I said my man had a curfew, if he didn‘t make it home before the sun the bedroom door was locked and he couldn’t slept in the bedroom. So she turned to me and said, “My man doesn’t come home for days sometime, but I don’t get upset. My man takes really good care of me and my kids, and I understand the game.” At this time, I am a buck in my twenties and I couldn’t believe my ears. I was thinking to myself damn you’re a dumb ass. But now I understand the true definition of a Ride or Die Chick.
Other women may look at this woman as a stupid woman. Stupid for staying with a man that cheats on you, disrespect you, and verbally and or physically beats you. This is a type of woman that has a bond so strong with her man that it’s hard for some people to understand or comprehend their relationship. She takes a lot of criticism from friends and family members for staying with a man that they don’t think is worthy of her.
The Ride or Die Chick is truly a ‘we’ person not a ‘me’ person. “We” as in, if it affects you then if affects me and therefore it affects “we”. When it comes to her and her man she will do almost anything to make sure her shit stays together. She will make many concessions for her man, without a fuss. She knows are place and plays her position well. She lets her man be a man and do not try to out shine him. She is his biggest fan and support system. She has a ‘It’s gonna be what it’s gonna be’ attitude when it comes to her man.
She usually don’t let others sway her, she is truly her own woman, even though others may not always see her as her own woman. She thinks very highly of her man, which can sometimes cause friction between her and her friends and family. This is why she tends not to speak ill of her man in fear of having to defend her actions. This usually happens after constant complaining about her man to others and receiving feedback saying she should leave him, and don’t. So to avoid the drama she doesn’t complain as much and keep her relationship between her and her man.
Unfortunately, initially there aren’t really no tell-tell signs in regards to a Ride or Die Chick, only time will tell if a woman is truly a Ride or Die Chick. If you’re with a chick and you are down on your luck and she takes the baton and starts running, then she’s a Ride or Die Chick. If she catches you cheating, and still stays with you, then that’s a Ride or Die Chick. If she goes to bat for you and defend you in front of others, that’s a Ride or Die Chick.
One caution about a Ride or Die Chick is that she may not let go when you’re ready to call it a wrap. She will fight to the bitter end, this is where things can get sticky. If this woman is not ready to call it quits she will not give up without a fight. You can cheat and lie and she won’t leave you and if you try to leave her she won’t let you leave, well, at least, not without a fight, which could cause embarrassment for you and possibly for her as well. See, her thinking is, how can you leave me after all the shit you put me through.
But for the most part, most men love a Ride or Die Chick, because basically they have the best of both worlds. If they take care of home and keep their woman happy almost nothing can break up their union, or so they think. This is where alot of men tend to take advantage because he knows no matter what he does she won’t leave. But word to the wise, everybody have a breaking point, even a Ride or Die Chick. So men, if you think it is sweet like that, think again.
Women are truly emotional creatures, so if she feels a deep emotional connection to you that’s a bond that supersedes almost anything else. But once a woman loses interest in a man she tends to back off. If the man is providing for her, whether it’s financially or sexually then she may stick around for that purpose alone. If this becomes the case, some women may step out on you, but continue to keep you satisfied, this is called flipping the script. So you may think you have the best of both worlds and so can she. However, if this is truly a Ride or Die Chick, no matter what she do or what you do, she will ride it out to the bitter end.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Say you’re in the bed getting busy and you think you’re putting your thang down and she stops because she says you just don’t do it for her. She would probably ask you to leave and never call your ass again. Other women may fake an orgasm or talk dirty in hopes this will help you climax quicker. This is why most men choose to keep this kind of woman as a buddy or a homie, lover, friend. Another thing about the Keeping It Real Chick is that she can also be embarrassing. Hey if she got to let one loose, she will regardless where she’s at, or if she doesn’t agree with what you have to say she will definitely let you know. She can also be combative because she doesn’t know how to back down or sugar coat.
She can be an asset too. Say you just met a woman that you are feeling and think you may have a future with this woman and you tell the KIR ( Keeping It Real) Chick, if she knows anything about this chick that she thinks you should know, good or bad, she is going to let you know. This is a good thing because she can give you the female perspective about your situation. Remember men are from Mars and women are from Venus. So basically, what you are probably thinking is probably ass backwards. So if you can’t handle the truth or is not prepared for the truth, then don’t ask for it, because you will get it whether it’s painful or not.
This type of women can come from any social-economical background. She’s just a woman that speaks the truth and doesn’t give a damn if someone doesn’t like it. She tends to have few friends, because most people, specifically women can’t handle her banter and strong opinions. Very few men can handle her because she may be too much to handle in certain situations, which can be down right embarrassing for the man.
She can also kick it with the dudes when it comes to candid talk about sex. She can be quite explicit as well. Some men find this as a turn off because most men think women should be a lady in public and a freak behind close doors and that’s where the freak should be kept. Most women when they are horny may beat around the bush with their man, a KIR Chick will just straight ask, “Are we fucking?” And if so, she will tell you just how she wants it. If she wants you to spank her then she will let you know. Now this part of the KIR Chick most men like. They may not like her boldest in other situations, but find it a turn on when it comes to sex.
She is also the kind of woman that keeps a reserve. She will always have a Fallback Guy she can call when she is in need. When no one else is around to fulfill her needs she will call the fallback guy to serve her. The Fallback Guy, is not her man, he could have been in the past or he could strictly be a homie, lover friend dude. The Fallback Guy is usually a dude that’s been around for years, but understands the situation, basically he knows his role and plays his position.
If you’re the kind of man that likes to keep a woman in her so-called place, this is not the woman you what to mess with. She will give you a run for your money, and trust me you will probably go for broke. Usually this is the kind of women who grew up or hung around a lot of males. But in some cases this is a woman who in the past has been dogged out by men and developed a “fuck it” attitude towards men. She speaks her mind and says what she wants and if you can’t handle it then that’s your fucking problem, not hers.
So, you ask how can you detect this kind of woman. Fellas, if you meet a chick and she doesn’t decline to answer any questions that you may ask on the first date, no matter how explicit, she’s a Keeping It Real Chick. If you take her to a restaurant and the waitress ask how is the food and she says the shit is awful, that’s a Keeping It Real Chick. Again, if you’re having sex and if you’re not big enough, or not getting the job done, and you ask her how she likes it, be prepared to hear the truth. Hey just keeping it real.
Don’t get me wrong, she can be a good friend to have, because at times we see the truth and know the truth, but don’t what to acknowledge the truth, she will help you do just that. For instance, I use to work with a young lady who boyfriend lived in Los Angeles and she was living in Philly with their son. Every time she would try to call to talk to him he would always come up with an excuse not to. Every time she would try to come out to see him, he would make an excuse for her not to come. So after months of hearing her complain about this man the KIR Chick just blurted out, “He’s fucking someone else.” Everyone couldn’t believe she said it even though everyone else was thinking it, but didn’t have to guts to tell her. Of course, she cried and didn’t believe it, and moved out to California and got her little feelings hurt.
Again, it takes a special kind of man to handle, or it least, contain this kind of woman. You have to be able to take it straight with no chaser even when you really don’t want it. You have to be prepared for the unexpected when it comes to what may come out of her mouth, whether it’s privately or in front of a group of friends or strangers. Every man needs a KIR Chick in their life. She is the type of woman that you can kick it with, talk to, get advice from and maybe a little nookie if you become her Fallback Guy. Hey, if you can handle this, then you are prepared for the Keeping It Real Chick.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
This is the woman that has the latest designer fashions, always taking trips, and going out spending money frivolously. On the outside one might envy her and think she got her stuff together, but little do they know! This is the chick that is constantly getting shut off notices for her utilities, maxed out credit cards, and possibly eviction notices. Now, I am not saying all Ghetto Fabulous Chicks fit this description, but a fair amount does.
The Ghetto Fabulous Chick is mainly concerned with her physical appearance and keeping up with the Joneses. Her top priority and job is to look fabulous when she steps outside. She may not find money to pay her electric or gas bill, but she can find money to buy that Gucci bag. Some Ghetto Fabulous Chicks will live at home or with friends and family members because she prefers to spend her money on the latest fashion trends and not on rent or mortgage.
She craves attention and hate competition. If another woman gets more attention than she does in a public place she will try to do something to divert the attention away from the other woman and onto her. She may openly flirt with the men in the room, or prance around the room to get noticed. Shoot she figured, if I took this much effort to look this good then damn it all eyes better be on me.
She may sometimes over do it. She may have a Gucci bag, YSL sunglasses, and Prada shoes. Or she may have a Gucci Hat, Gucci eyeglasses, a Gucci logo shirt and Gucci shoes. Basically, designer overkill, she wants everyone to know what designer she is wearing or carrying 24/7. She usually has the flamboyant nails and toes to match. She may wear big gaudy jewelry and colorful hair with two or three different shades.
How can you detect if you met a Ghetto Fabulous Chick. Well without stating the obvious, it she has a new car and the gas tank is always on empty, that’s A Ghetto Fabulous Chick. If you go to her house and she has a bunch of shut off and final notices lying around, that’s a Ghetto Fabulous Chick. If she is carrying a $400 handbag with no money inside, that’s a Ghetto Fabulous Chick. If she is always fly and broke, that’s a Ghetto Fabulous Chick. If she always wants to go to fancy restaurants and never offers to pay, that’s a Ghetto Fabulous Chick. Fellas, these are all key signs of a Ghetto Fabulous Chick.
Some men are attracted to this kind of woman because they know she is fly and an attention getters. She will definitely seek attention anywhere she goes. However, Ghetto Fabulous Chicks tend to be needy women. They are always asking or begging a man to buy them this or that or to take them here or there, but never buys the man anything or take him anywhere. You ask why, because her ass is broke! This is a woman who lives way above her means. She is all about herself and if she has kids sometimes she put her desires and wants before her kids. Another sign is, if this woman is always fly from head to toe and her kids have on run over shoes and shabby clothes, this is definitely a Ghetto Fabulous Chick, not to mention an inattentive mother .
I have a cousin who I describe as a Ghetto Fabulous Chick. She is on public assistance and she spends her whole government check on shoes, bags, or clothes she can’t afford and then go for the next two weeks with no funds, so she sells her Access card (food stamps) 7 on 10 to get through the next two weeks.
Fellas, please take notice when you meet this kind of woman. Oh she will try to get you caught up with the sex. She will try her best to put it on you so good that you keep coming back for more, all the while she is sticking you for your paper. If she is fine and have a great body she will definitely use that to her advantage, because she knows she is your eye candy and in order to keep her you have to shower her with gifts.
She also likes to brag alot. She likes to let others know how much she paid for this and that and what car she drives and how many trips she’s taken and give you the location of each one. She usually lives in the projects or subsidized housing this is why she is called the Ghetto Fabulous Chick. Her only aspiration is looking good at any cost. She usually doesn’t plan for the future and live day by day, she loves living in the moment. She usually dates thugs or men she knows can afford her bad habits because obviously she can’t.
Men, so remember the BBD song “Poison” never trust a big butt and a smile because it will get you caught up every time. However, if this is your type of woman then go for it, I just hope you have a lot of money or ready to go for broke!.
I’m just saying..
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