Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Demand Respect and You Will Get Respect!!!

Why is it that we can be strong and have a “no-nonsense” attitude when it comes to our children, job and family, but when it comes to our man some of us are deficient? Yes, ladies it is time to discuss this topic. It’s time for REAL TALK when it comes to our men.

We can run a business, a household, and be Suzy Homemaker, but when it comes to our man we don’t demand the respect that we deserve. As the old saying goes “A closed mouth doesn’t get feed”. And once you open your mouth make sure you say what you mean and mean what you say because actions speak louder than words. I have come to learn that a man will only do what you allow him to do. If you are all bark and no bite then your man will continue to act like a dog.

If you catch your man cheating or have evidence that he is cheating and you address it and he continues to do it, then the foolishness is on you. If you address it and warns him if it happens again you’re out and it happens again and you are still sharing the same bed then the foolishness is really on you! Because at that point you have given him carte blanche to do whatever with whomever because now he knows there are no consequences to suffer.

Ladies that’s why it is imperative to say what you mean and mean what you say! If you tell your man that you will leave his ass if he acts up and he acts up anyway then do it! If you tell your man that he has one more chance and that’s it and he messes up again, make it the last time and bounce! Yes, I said “again”, no one is perfect and even the best of the best mess up from time to time, but if it is something or someone worth having then, trust me, it will be reflected in that person’s actions. Men will only do what we allow them to do. Men will only get away with what we let them get away with. Trust me, if a man really wants to be with you and you display what you say, trust me, he won’t violate that trust or try to test you! We may not be able to change a man but we can definitely bring out the best in a man, sometimes I think we forget how much power we have when it comes to men.

So ask yourself ladies is your mouth close or are you getting feed, but not displaying what you’re saying?

Just food for thought….

C Double R!!


  1. Agree wit cha, Lil Sis! :) Also, some times u just gotta let ur actions speak words....just actions!


  2. read ur blog this morn'n; very insightful as always
    As much as I may not want to admit is true if "we" can keep get'n away
    w/the same thing "we'll" keep on doing the same thing w/o thinking 2x's about

  3. @ KT - how does the saying go, "I can show you better than I can tell you!!"

    @ Anonymous - Exactly, no other words needed!!

  4. Guess who's back....

    No look I understand where you're coming from, but don't go overboard. Don't to rollin' yo eyes and switchin' ya neck over some dumb sh*t. Pick your battles. If your man is cheating and you have evidence besides what your single sorry assed girlfriends say, then put him in check.

    If you just want to try to be dominant and start over some petty stuff, you will find yourself alone. Yep, I said it.

  5. @ True Man.. welcome back, miss you!
    Now that the pleasantries are out the way, lets have some REAL TALK!! As I stated in the article, no one is perfect so if you know you have a good man and he slipped up just put him on notice and if he goes and do it again after you put him on notice then that’s when you have to handle your bidness and give him the BIDNESS!!
    Yes we all have to pick and choose our battles, but you don’t want a battle to manifest into a war???
    I’m just saying