Wednesday, November 4, 2009

When Does Feminism Becomes Anti-Men?

For those of you that personally know me, you know that I am a strong advocate when it comes to equal rights and equal pay for women. Women still only makes 78 cent to every dollar that a man makes! Will there ever really be equality when it comes to the sexes? I don’t mean to get on a soapbox, but some things should just be equal especially when it comes to the cash! However, I still believe that some things still should be designated for men and the same for women.

I refer to myself as an independent woman. One, because I have no choice, when you’re single you are pretty much or at least should be self sufficient, which equals independent. I mow my own grass, take out my own trash, change my own light bulbs, make minor repairs around the house, get my oil change in the car, not because I want to, but because I have to because I am single. However, I do believe if a man and a woman are in a relationship I still believe that certain duties should be handled by the man and other should be handled by the woman. I believe that a man should take out the trash, mow the lawn, get the oil changed in the car and be the head of the house, even if he does make less money then you. Some women may not agree, but I believe that the man should be the head of the home, not because of his monetary status, but because of his gender status. It is in a man’s make up to protect and provide for his family, a man is nothing without his pride!

Unfortunately, some women can or won’t allow men to be men, especially if he makes less money than she does. Prime example was Tasha in the movie “Why Did I Get married?” She thought her man wasn’t man enough because he worked in her shop and couldn’t find a job that she thought he should have as her man. However, she forgot the reason why she had the shop in the first place, because he gave her the money to start the business when he was a professional ball player. But now that he works in her shop she thought he was less of a man. However, he did remind her the only reason why she has the shop is because of him, after he got tired of listening to her bullshit day in and day out.

So my question is when does feminism becomes anti-man? Ladies, it is ok to be independent and do your own thing and pay your own bills, but if you’re in a relationship, please let the man be a man! And for God sake’s make him feel like a man. Allow him to open your door, take the trash out, cut the grass, don’t always make every little thing a battle of the sexes, because at some point that shit gets old and you may find yourself alone and ass out!

Sometimes emotional support outweighs financial support, especially if you’re independent enough to support yourself!! It’s ok to let a man be a man because sometimes that’s all that he has ...

I’m just saying…

C Double R


  1. Feminism becomes "Anti-Man" when you begin to think that women are better than men or better off without one. We need each other, as much as we fight.

    You can love being a woman without hating a man. Sadly, a lot of women can't seperate the two. They say they don't hate men, but they will take an experience with one man and apply it to the entire male species. Every other word out their mouth is "I told you girl, he ain't sh*t!"

    And stop listening to your gotdamn single girlfriends. How is a woman with no documented history of having a man going to tell you what to do with yours (I know that off subject, but I had to say it)?

  2. Well, well, well, well Mr. True Man, I can't believe it, but I completely agree with you, picture that. It's very true that some women really don't understand that every woman needs a man. Every woman should listen to my favorite Mary J Blige song, "Father in You" I posted the words to the song on my blog because it is so true.

    Thanks for your comments, as usual:)