Monday, September 21, 2009

Letter to my Sistas!

Ladies, I know I write about all types of women on my blog; the selfish, the greedy, the vain, the bold, the independent and everything in between. But today I want to speak to ALL of my sistas. Throughout my life I have come across quite a few women who don’t recognize their self worth. I am talking about educated woman, uneducated, professional, non-professional, woman from the hood to the suburbs. I wanted to express the different backgrounds because it doesn’t matter what background you come from this recognition problem seems to affect all types of women.

I don’t know if this is a learned behavior or an innate behavior. I do know that most people are a product of their environment. Now it depends on how you look at your environment. Are you a person that looks at your environment and knows it’s fucked up and you decide to take another route so you won’t be fucked up too? Or are you the type of person who just roll with the status quo? I believe it’s all about your make up. But it also has to do with how you were raised as a child. For example, if you had people constantly telling you, you aint going to be shit all your life as a child, one or two things are going to happen, you are going to believe it and prove them right, or you are going to show them that you are worthy and prove them wrong? So which is it, a learned behavior or an innate behavior?

I just believe once we truly understand that we all have a purpose in life that’s when we can truly understand our self worth. So don’t let others tell you your worth, go out and discover your worth yourself. After all, the only person that has to live with you 24/7 is you!!

Always remind yourself that you are worthy and if others can’t see your self-worth then they don’t deserve to reap the benefits of your worth. We, as humans, have the tendency to have others define us, instead of defining ourselves. We have the tendency to try to impress others instead of trying to impress ourselves.

It’s funny when I say to people that I want to lose 10 pounds, because the first thing that they say is girl you look good to me or girl you don’t need to lose no weight. But the thing is, I appreciate the compliments, but I don’t want to lose weight for them I want to lose weight for Chanel! I brought those 4 inches stilettos because Chanel likes the way they look. I brought that sexy little dress because Chanel likes the way it fit. And as Katt Williams say, if you got 5 people hating on you today, it’s you’re job to make that 15 by the end of the year!!! Appreciate and know your worth ladies!!!!

Ladies, I’m just saying..

C Double R

1 comment:

  1. You know I really like this post. When I was coming up I was always told I was ugly and it stuck with me. Only now have I learned to embrace the beautiful woman I am today. You always have to turn a negative into a positive. There is a glimmer of hope in everything. Knocking on 30 has me re-evaluating life and learning to love the woman I am. If I cannot love me how can I expect anyone else to.