Thursday, January 5, 2012

Ride or Die Chick or Desperate Chick?

I am the first to commend a Ride or Die Chick. For those of you who do not know what a Ride or Die Chick is then let me define this kind of woman for you. This is the woman that stands by her man, when others tell her to leave. This is the woman that is the Bonnie to her Clyde. This is the woman who would ride with her man whether he has two dollars or two million dollars. Hence, Ride or Die Chick. But the question becomes when does Ride or Die turns into Desperate Chick?

Every man wants a Ride or Die Chick by his side because he pretty much knows no matter what he does this woman is going to ride with him no matter what? The question is, does this make her a Ride or Die woman or a desperate woman?

Every woman (and man) should have a threshold when it comes to tolerating the intolerable, especially when it comes to their own happiness. It’s cool to stand by your mate side and try to work things out, but if this person is a habitual offender you may want to rethink the terminology of a Ride or Die Chick and start asking yourself have I turned into a Desperate Chick; a woman who is willing to accept and do anything to keep her man?

When you have to constantly beg your mate to marry you, (hence, Chrissy from Love and Hip Hop), or when you have to repeatedly hear rumors about your man sleeping with someone else (Emily from Love and Hip Hop) or have another woman tell you to your face that your man is probably in bed with another woman right now (Kimbella from Love and Hip Hop) you may want to start thinking about an exit plan from your “relationship” and start working on your self esteem.

I understand we all want love and some of us love so hard that we don’t realize when we cross the line to being desperate. Don’t make someone else a priority in your life when you are only an option in theirs!

I’m Just Saying.

C Double R

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