Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Dating Outside Your League!!

Time to keep it real, so let’s go! Nothing pisses me off more than having someone request something from a potential mate that they can’t even provide for themselves, you all know what I’m talking about. For example, a man who’s always talking about he only wants to date “dime” pieces. Translation, this means one of two things. He only wants to date a woman with all of the external qualities that stands out, a pretty face, banging body and very stylish. Or it could mean that he wants everything previously mentioned (outstanding physical characteristics) as well as well-educated, independent, classy and also a freak when she needs to be.

There is nothing wrong with these types of requests if you are also fulfilling the same requests for your potential mate. For example, you can’t request a dime piece, whether it’s just the physical or the full package dime piece, and your credentials aren’t up to par. You are requesting a Pamela Grier exterior but you are a Fat Albert, sorry but I’m just saying. Or you are requesting a Michele Obama and you have a G.E.D.

The bottom line is don’t request something from someone else that you can’t fulfill for yourself. Men tend to be more of sticklers for these kinds of requests than women. A financially successful woman would date a man who makes less money than her before a man would date a woman that is not his physical “cup of tea.”

Some people look to others to validate who they are and to confirm their self- worth. If you want self- worth then YOU have to create your self- worth, no one else can do that for you. Be what you like! If you like physically fit women or men then get that ass in the gym! Join the team, don’t be a spectator of the sport. If you want a successful partner, work on your own plan to be successful yourself. Trust me, when someone sees that you can bring just as much to the table as they do they will respect you more.

I just don’t respect someone who puts all of these demands on someone else in order for that person to be their mate when they can’t even hold a candle to the person that they are requesting. Really?

I’m just saying.

C Double R!


  1. Ayinda Wallace-Hopkins:
    Yes, men are very quick to ask: what do you do for a living and do you have your own place? The question is do you have your own place, because you are always hanging at my house lol. Also why does it matter what i do count your own cash not mine. Thse are the complaints that all my single girlfriends mention. im just putting it out there. You are doing a great job with these articles C Double R