Monday, July 12, 2010

No You Can’t Date My Momma: When Grown Kids Live at Home and Interfere with Your Dating!

This is something I hope I never have to experience because I have heard nightmares in regards to this issue. Ladies have you ever had to end a relationship because of your kids? No, I am not talking about minor age children, but because of your grown ass adult still living at home kids? Can we say “Baby Boy” situation?


I think this situation is harder for sons than it is for daughters, especially when they have been called “The Man of the House” for so long. They tend to feel like the new boyfriend is trying to take over the role as “The Man of the House” and most sons don’t take too kindly to this, so they will try to throw a monkey wrench in your program.

Now don’t get me wrong, not all sons do this for selfish reasons, sometimes they do it for very good reasons. Most men can recognize game when they see it and the vision is ten times stronger when it comes to their Mommas, believe that! Don’t any child (son or daughter) want their momma to be played by no man, especially if they can see it coming from a mile away.

But the question is does the child have a right to steal your happiness or perceived happiness away from you? Yes, he/she may have good intentions (in some cases) but ultimately shouldn’t it be your decision who and who not to date? Just like we tell our kids, sometimes you have to live the mistake in order to learn from the mistake.

However, if your child knows that you are dealing with a straight up loser or a playa then in that case I think the child not only have the right, but an obligation to let you know. However, letting your mother know and telling your mom who she can and cannot date is something completely different. Because just like in any other scenario, you can only lead the horse to the water, you can’t force them to drink it, not unless they are thirsty.

So the bottom line is this, should you stop dating someone just because your grown ass kid that still lives at home tells you not to? Well, it all depends, if the child is doing it for the right reason and can prove what they are saying is true, it is still your choice to make, but when it doesn’t work out you can’t say you weren’t forewarned. Now if you know your child is interfering just because they don’t want you to date and just don’t like the dude you are dating then I say hell to the no! If your grown ass still living at home child doesn’t like the man you are dating, but you do, then they can do one of two things; shut the hell up, be respectful and deal with it because their grown ass shouldn’t be there anyway or they could pack their stuff up and move out!

I’m just saying…

C Double R!

5 comments:

  1. Felisa Trent:

    LOL! Get your grown, needin' your own apartment a-- out your momma's house! LOL!

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  2. ‎@ Fe exactly, the audacity of your grown still living at home don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of interfering in my "private" affairs ass!!!!

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  3. Chevonne...aka...BonnieJuly 14, 2010 at 5:47 AM

    I have four sons, four brothers and a dad...and I love them all...my husband and I raised my four boys well...and if by chance, I found myself single, I will get a one bedroom apartment, hell I might get a studio, and do my own thing! They can't move back home, won't be enough room and because I will NOT allow them in my business...It's cool if they look out for the cookout....but they can't be all in my mix like that...I just won't have it!!! I can't stand a grown ass man living with his momma....disgusting...if your momma is old or you're worried about her, then move her in your house...stay the hell outta yo' momma's basement! LOL!!

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  4. You're right that a grown man might feel that he is still the man of the house. But he mother has a right to be happy and he should respect that.

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  5. @ Bonnie and TrueMan - I agree. If you are a grown man still livin at home with momma you eiter mind your damn busines or move the hell out!

    Thanks for blogging out!!
    C Double R!

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