Friday, February 25, 2011

Falling in Love is More Exciting Than Being in Love

We all know how it is when you meet that special person, you can’t wait to call them, to see them, to touch them, to make love to them, just the mere mention of their name drives you insane. Even when he or she forgets to call when they said they would you don’t care, you’re just glad that they finally did call. Or when they cancel your date at the last minute, it’s all good because you know they will make it up to you next week. These are the things that we tolerate, or overlook when we are falling in love.

Once we are actually in love things are a little different. Falling in love is always a pleasure in process, being in love is always work in progress. Once you’re in love you’re less tolerant of the excuses, the missed calls and the cancelled dates. Being in love is more about making sacrifices and less about the euphoric feelings you had when you were falling in love. Being in love is about commitment.

Some may say it is easy to fall in love, but it’s much harder to stay in love. Once the novelty of the relationship wears off reality starts to kick in. Staying in love is hard work because you constantly have to think of new ways to keep the spark in the relationship, in and outside of the bedroom, which can sometimes become more of a chore than pleasure.

Everyone wants to fall in love, but does anyone really want to put in the effort to stay in love? Love is not a phase, love is life. When you accept love into your heart you’re accepting love into your life, which means you have to be prepared to take on the responsibilities of love. Love is being there when your partner needs you in the worst of time, not the best of times. Love is accepting your partner even when they change physically. Love is learning to accept your partner for their flaws and loving them the most when they deserve it the least.

If you are willing to take on these complexities of love then being in love may be as exciting as falling in love for you!

I’m just saying.

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