Above all, be the heroin in your life not a victim

This is a famous quote by the late great Nora Ephron, may she rest in peace. This statement really resonates with me because I believe all women should live by this saying every day of their life. There are too many women that play victim and look for a hero to save them instead of saving themselves.


Some women like to blame others for their shortcomings instead of looking at the common denominator of all of their bad situations, themselves. It comes a time in life when we have to put our big girl panties on and take charge of our lives! When life gives you lemons you squeeze those lemons to they are bone dry and add a little sugar and sip on some fresh sweet lemonade. Remember, you are the only one that controls your destiny in life and now it’s time to take charge.

Stop playing victim and be the heroin that is dying to get out. It does not matter how many times you fall, what matters is how many times you are able to get up, brush yourself off and keep it moving. Every trying time we face only makes us stronger and prepares us for the next trying time we may face in life. Life is all about evolution, if we don’t evolve in life then we will never know our full potential in life. Push until you can’t push no more.

Are you evolving or are you playing victim?

I’m just saying…

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Never make someone a priority when you’re just an option to them

I am quite sure we all have been in this situation where we make a person a priority and we’re just an option to them or vice versa. Situations like these are never easy. You always feel like you’re giving too much and they’re giving too little, there is never a time when things are balanced. Eventually there comes a time when you have to decide whether to stay or leave?


When you make a person a priority and they make you an option you are saying you rather settle on having a piece of this person than not to have them at all. Then the question becomes do you love this person more than you love yourself? In addition, you are giving this person permission to do as they please and at the end of the day you are waiting by the phone hoping you are next in their queue.

Unfortunately, sometimes when we are so into a person we lose ourselves and forget about our own self-worth. Sometimes we even look at these situations as a competition, we compete to get this person’s attention, all the while losing ourselves in the process. My advice is, if you’re not satisfied with your position with a person and you have addressed this issue and you have given them amble time to make the adjustments and they still have not, more than likely “it is what it is”.

Don’t sell yourself short. If a person can’t appreciate and respect your love you have for them then maybe they’re not worthy of your love. Never make someone a priority when you’re just one of many options to them because you will always be waiting in the queue. You deserve so much more!

I’m just saying.

C Double R

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A Closed Mouth Doesn’t Get Fed!!

Why is it that we can be strong and have a “no-nonsense” attitude when it comes to our children, job and family, but when it comes to our man some of us are deficient? Yes, ladies it is time to discuss this topic. It’s time for REAL TALK when it comes to our men.


We can run a business, a household, and be Suzy Homemaker, but when it comes to our man we don’t demand the respect that we deserve. As the old saying goes “A closed mouth doesn’t get feed”. And once you open your mouth make sure you say what you mean and mean what you say because actions speak louder than words. I have come to learn that a man will only do what you allow him to do. If you are all bark and no bite then your man will continue to act like a dog.

If you catch your man cheating or have evidence that he is cheating and you address it and he continues to do it, then the foolishness is on you. If you address it and warns him if it happens again you’re out and it happens again and you are still sharing the same bed then the foolishness is really on you! Because at that point you have given him carte blanche to do whatever with whomever because now he knows there are no consequences to suffer.

Ladies that’s why it is imperative to say what you mean and mean what you say! If you tell your man that you will leave his ass if he acts up and he acts up anyway then do it! If you tell your man that he has one more chance and that’s it and he messes up again, make it the last time and bounce! Yes, I said “again”, no one is perfect and even the best of the best mess up from time to time, but if it is something or someone worth having then, trust me, it will be reflected in that person’s actions. Men will only do what we allow them to do. Men will only get away with what we let them get away with. Trust me, if a man really wants to be with you and you display what you say, trust me, he won’t violate that trust or try to test you! We may not be able to change a man but we can definitely bring out the best in a man, sometimes I think we forget how much power we have when it comes to men.

So ask yourself ladies is your mouth close or are you getting feed, but not displaying what you’re saying?

I’m just saying..

C Double R!

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Just because I'm sexy doesn't mean you can sex me!

Just because I wear tight jeans that accentuate the roundness of my bottom, or a dress that compliment my curvy hips and thick thighs doesn’t mean I’m ready to jump in your bed. Just because I’m sexy doesn’t mean you can sex me!


I had a good friend of mine ask me to write about this topic. She wanted me to clear up the misconception of a sexy woman. Some men think just because a woman is sexy she is easy to sex. Now let’s examine the word sexy, shall we. There is a difference from being sexy and being trashy. A woman can be sexy in a pair of jeans and a tee shirt. The jeans may be sexy because they hug her in all the right spots and the fitted tee shirt because it highlights her assets. She is being sexy without even trying and without exposing her skin. Trashy is when a woman is drawing attention to herself for all of the wrong reasons because she have damn near all of her orifices hanging out for the whole world to see. Ladies this is not sexy this is trashy.

As my homegirl Ms. Nikki said just because I am sexy doesn’t mean I want to have sex with you. I’m sexy and classy not sexy and trashy. I’m sexy dressed up or down. I own sexy where others have to lease it with an option to buy.

So guys learn to differentiate sexy classy from sexy trashy and once you recognize the difference make sure your game is tight if you want to be with Ms. Right. If your game is weak then you may end up with the freak of the week!

I’m just saying

C Double R!

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The five categories of women who date married men according to C Double R

First let me put this disclaimer out there, this is solely my opinion based on my experiences and observations of woman who date married men. My Masters Degree is in Organizational Leadership not Psychology, however, I do believe after reading this article most, if not all, of you will agree that I make some very validate points when it comes to the types of women that date married men.


The first woman is the desperate woman. Some women will take a man anyway they can get him, especially if they are young with low self esteem because these kinds of women are easily persuaded to fall into this kind of situation. Unfortunately, these are women who have not recognized their own self worth. This woman could also have the “Retaliation Syndrome”. This is when a woman subconsciously wants to hurt another woman because she has been hurt by this behavior in the past.

The second woman is the woman looking for a Sugar Daddy. These women are looking for sugar daddies to spoil them, but without a commitment. The married man is perfect because they are already committed but most married men who cheats like to spoil their mistresses.

The third woman is the career woman with limited time who’s looking for a little fun but is not ready to settle down. The career woman who dates married men is looking for the comfort of a man, but not a relationship. The married man is perfect because his time is very limited but he can give her wants she wants when she wants it without monopolizing her time.

The Fourth woman is the married woman who cheats with a married man. The married woman who cheats is looking to fulfill her needs that are not being fulfilled by her husband.

The final woman is the unassuming woman. This is the woman who meets the married man but unbeknownst to her she doesn’t know he’s married because he appears to be single (no ring, own apartment, accessible). However, once she finds out she’s so caught up that she continues to date him.

These are the five categories of women who date married men according to C Double R. If you recognized yourself in one of these categories you may want to ask yourself, is it worth it?

I’m just saying.

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Are you in a relationship or a situation?

Some people have the tendency to confuse these two words and in their defense they truly may not know the difference, so it is my job to help them understand the difference.


You are in a relationship when both parties mutually agree that they are in a relationship and not just one person “thinking” they’re in a relationship when it hasn’t been discussed with the other person. Just because you pack an overnight bag and stay at the other person’s house, doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship. Or just because you have a toothbrush at the other person’s house doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship with this person. If it hasn’t been openly discussed then don’t assume that you are in a relationship, because we all know what happens when people assume.

You may be in a “situation” if you are doing the aforementioned things and you never discussed your status with the other person. Ladies, and men too, don’t be too quick to change your relationship status on Facebook to “in a relationship” if you haven’t discussed it with the other person who is in this “alleged” relationship because you may be in for a rude awakening.

Now on the other hand, if it has been discussed by both partners and it’s mutually agreed that you all are in a “situation” and not a “relationship” and you are satisfied with that status then that is fine too. But if you are unsure of your current status them maybe it’s time you have that relationship discussion with the other person so you know exactly where you stand with that person, instead of assuming.

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Loved Up, But Not Wifed Up!

Ladies have you ever fell into the “wait until” trap with your man? Wait until I finish school, wait until we buy the house, wait until I get the promotion, wait until I get my divorce? Yes, women will actually stay with a man for years even though she knows he is still married in the hopes that one day he will get a divorce and marry her. Why do so many women fall for the “wait until” game?


The kicker is when the man says “I’m not going nowhere and neither are you so what’s the rush?” WTF!! Are you serious? That’s even more of a reason for him to put a ring on it! A woman will stay with a man for years, have babies for him, buy a house with him and he will never marry her you know why? Because she has already given him everything that a married coupled give each other which mean he doesn’t have any motivation to marry her. I’m just saying!!

Ladies stop playing house and stop putting the cart in front of the horse, make him work for your love. Put your foot down and if that means that you have to remove yourself from the situation to make him realize how lucky HE is to have you as his woman then do it! This is easier said than done, but in the end it is all worth it because at the end of the day you will know if the whole relationship is really worth your time and energy and if that man really loves you like he says he does.

If you are good enough to “portray” the image of the wife by living together, having kids together supporting him emotionally, spiritually and even financially then you should be good enough for him to put a ring on it and make it official and be called the Mrs. and not my lady, girl, love of my life, girlfriend or fiancée!

There is a huge difference between being the Mrs. and the girlfriend/fiancée. When a man introduces his woman as his wife there is an instant respect factor from other women as oppose to him introducing her as his lady or fiancée. Here’s some real talk, if you have a good man and other women know it and if you are not his wife then they see him as “still available”. If you don’t appreciate your worth and don’t make him wife you up then another “smart” woman will because she knows her worth just like she knows his.

I’m just saying!

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Ladies, have you ever taken on a man – as a science project?

Most people think of a science project as an unique project that is created from scratch that has a cause and effect aspect to it, not a man. Cause and effect refers to the philosophical concept of causality, in which an action or event will produce a certain response to the action in the form of another event. Unfortunately, some women think they can take this same analogy and apply it to a man. Some women take on men as if they are taking on a science project. They think they can build a man to their liking hoping it will create the cause and effect they always looked for in a man.


When some women reach a certain age and start thinking about being alone for the rest of their life or their biological clock, they act out of desperation, not common sense and take on any man that will give them the time of day. Unfortunately, this way of thinking does not discriminate. This way of thinking can claim a highly educated woman, a businesswoman, a religious woman, an attractive woman, basically any woman who is feeling desperate.

Desperate situations call for desperate measures. Some women would rather take a man on as a dependent than wait for the right self sufficient man to come along. They will pay off their debts, tolerate their unemployment, numerous kids, and sometimes even their hazardous vices, all for the sake of having a man.

In most of these situations friends can see the writing on the wall, unfortunately, a good number of desperate women don’t listen or refuse to listen to their friends because silently they are hoping and praying that their science project will create the cause and effect they are hoping for, but in most cases it doesn’t.

My advice is ladies don’t take men on as science projects, wait for the man that already provides that cause and effect that you are looking for in a man. Because at the end of the day that great science project may turn out to be one huge disappointment that wasted a lot of your time, energy and money,

I’m just saying.

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Watch the company that you keep – misery loves company

This goes for both ladies and men, watch the company you keep because misery loves company. It could be anything such as your love life, your success in life or your physical appearance. Have you ever noticed, especially when it comes to women, how your single girlfriends always have something to say about you and your man’s relationship? But she hasn’t been in a relationship for years and the ones that she has been in didn’t go past 3 months. Or why is it that it is always your plump friend that notices when you gain a half a pound and call you on it? Or your unemployed friends who always make negative comments about your job? WTH!


That’s why it’s important to watch the company that you keep. If you have friends that are extremely negative about everything and never have anything nice or complimentary to say, I say cut them and cut them quick. This is a sign of a person who is so miserable with their own life that they want you to be just as miserable, if not more. Women tend to be more catty than men, but there are guys out there who also player hate and don’t give props when they are due.

One thing I have learned is that you can’t help people who don’t want to be helped and you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to be changed. You can lead a horse to water but he won’t drink it unless he is thirsty. People who are constantly negative about others usually have very low self-esteem and they try to pump themselves up by degrading others.

If this sounds like someone you know, step back and walk away. But before you do let them know, “Watch the back you chew out because you may need it one day to carry you.”

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Courtesy sex

Recently I learned of something called “Courtesy Sex”, not to be mistaken for a Booty Call. Let me break it down so it can forever be broke. A Booty Call is when someone calls you (It can be a man or a woman making the call) either asking you to come over or asking to come over to have sex, but it is not considered a Booty Call if the call takes place before midnight.


Courtesy Sex is when a person (usually a man) has sex with someone out of pity. You may be asking, then why have sex if you really don’t want to have sex with the person? Well, the reason being is because they usually have a history with the person. I was out with a male buddy the other day and he explained it perfectly to me. He told me back in the day he used to date this petite pretty girl who had a banging body and he used to love to have sex with her. Recently he ran into her again. Unfortunately, one of her relatives passed away and she was in town for the funeral. He said the first moment she had him alone she asked when was he going to give her some? She told him she rehearsed this moment in her mind for almost twenty years. He said she damn near cornered him against the wall and started taking her clothes off. He said she was no longer the small petite woman he was attracted to, but he literally said, (his words not mine) she looked like a little bowling ball, round and short. So of course I asked, “Did you give her Courtesy Sex?” and of course he said yes, but he never told anyone because he still couldn’t believe that he did it.

I had several male friends tell me they had Courtesy Sex because they didn’t want to hurt the woman’s feelings. Most of the men had a previous relationship or a sexual history with the women and that is why they had Courtesy Sex. I had one man tell me he had mutual Courtesy Sex with his ex. He stated that they knew it was over and they both agreed to have sex one last time before he moved out. I think that’s different because at least in this case both parties knew the situation. However, when you are the one giving the Courtesy Sex nine times out of ten you’re the only one who knows about the Courtesy Sex situation.

So my question is, why not just say no? Seriously, I rather have a man tell me that he’s just not attracted to me like that anymore, or shit, just straight out lie to not have sex with me because the last thing I want is some Courtesy Sex from a man who is not attracted to me anymore. It’s just not that deep for me.

I’m just saying…

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