Time For Fall Cleaning- Choice, Chance, Change

Now that summer has changed to fall is it also time to make changes in our personal relationships? I love watching the season change from summer to fall, the changing of the leaves on the trees, the cool brisk mornings and the cool night air. It’s as if nature is going through a cleanse, it’s regenerating and preparing itself for a fresh start by getting rid of all the pollution and stale air from the summer’s heat. Is this also a good time to regenerate our personal relationships?

If you have someone or people in your life that are holding you down and are non-supportive maybe it’s time to clean your personal “house of friends”. I truly believe if someone is not adding something to your life then they are definitely taking away from it. It’s up to you to decide if that “friendship” is an asset or a liability.

I believe we meet people for a reason, season or a lifetime. If you met someone who brought sadness into your life but it was a lesson learned, then that means that person was put in your life for a reason. If you met someone that you enjoyed for a short period of time but didn’t bring a significant change in your life then this person was brought into your life for a season, not for a specific reason. Then you have that person you met that no matter what happens in your life; good, bad or indifferent he or she is a constant figure, which means that person was not brought into your life for a season or a reason, but for a lifetime.

One thing I have learned in life is that you must make a choice to take a chance if you want anything in life to change, because at the end of the day, only a fool will continuously do the same thing and expect a different outcome.

I’m just saying

C Double R

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Menage a Trois - Is it Worth the Risk?

This is the ubiquitous fantasy of almost every man. Men have been fantasizing about this fantasy since the beginning of time and from the start of their puberty. Every time I ask a man what is his biggest sexual fantasy the first thing that comes out of his mouth is a ménage a trois, that’s if they haven’t acted on the fantasy yet. I do know men who have admitted to acting out this fantasy with either one of their buddies or two women.


I have been told if this is a fantasy that you want or planning on fulfilling it shouldn’t be with someone that you are in a serious relationship with or truly care about because you may run the risk of having your fantasy back fire on you. I had a buddy tell me that he dated this woman who helped him live out this fantasy, she had sex with him and two other women, a couple of his boys on several occasions. When she found out that he was getting married she asked him why wasn’t he marrying her and he simply stated, “I can’t married you, you slept with my boys.” At this point, she could have been Michele Obama, Halle Berry or had everything going on for herself but because he knew she slept with his boys and he was a participant in the act he lost all respect for her.

Now on the flip side, if you do carry out this fantasy with someone that you are in a serious relationship with or really care about you may find yourself left out in the cold when it’s all said and done. You may hound your woman for months at a time or even years to help fulfill this fantasy of yours and then when she finally grants your wish she could get turned out by the third party, it could be male or female and mess around either leaving or cheating on your ass with the very person you begged to bring into your bedroom. So, be careful for want you wish for because you just might get it and in the end you may be on the outside looking in.

I was told this is something that you want to do with a woman who is just your buddy and have no intentions on getting serious with or someone you’ll never see again, like someone that you and your buddy meet on vacation. I was told if a man ask you to do this then he really doesn’t have respect for you or isn’t trying to make you “wifey”. Men, is this true? What if your woman is hounding you to do a ménage a trois does this means she really doesn’t care about you, or is she just a freak?

I’m just saying?



C Double R!

Set a Date with Your Mate

Sometimes we get so comfortable in our relationships that everything becomes routine and we forget to date our mate. The minute we stop dating our mate is the minute we start losing interest in our relationship. So to avoid this problem, make a date with your mate.


A good way to keep your relationship fresh is to have an affair with your mate. Yes, I said have an affair with your mate! If your name is Lisa change your name to Sasha when you call to flirt with your mate. Schedule a date with him and don’t arrive together. Meet him at the movies, restaurant or wherever you planned to meet. When you see your man waiting for you, walk up to him and introduce yourself as Sasha with the sexiest smile you can muster up. The key is to be someone you’re usually are not around your mate. If you usually wear button up shirts to your neck, unbutton a few buttons, or if you usually wear long skirts, throw on a sexy mini skirt. If you usually don’t wear make-up or wear your hair down put on that shiny lip gloss and let your hair down, after all it’s all in fun and it’s a great form of foreplay.

How does that saying go, “If you want to keep me then you have to continue to do the things you did to get me”. People, I have to tell you, this is more than just a phrase, it’s a fact. This goes for both men and women. If you cooked for your man 5 days a week but now you only cook once a week, that’s a problem. If you use to buy your woman flowers once a week and now she only get them once a year, that’s a problem. If you all use to have passionate sex at least three times a week and now it’s once a month, this is DEFINITELY a problem!

I understand that life can sometimes get in the way, but anything worth having usually requires a little work on your part. If you appreciate your mate then show him or her. Make a commitment to date each other and make a promise to never stop dating each other. If you never stop dating each other then you will always have excitement in your relationship.


I’m Just Saying

C Double R!

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Are You in a “Relationship” or a “Situation”?

Some people have the tendency to confuse these two words and in their defense they truly may not know the difference, so it is my job to help them understand the difference.


You are in a relationship when both parties mutually agree that they are in a relationship and not just one person “thinking” they’re in a relationship when it hasn’t been discussed with the other person. Just because you pack an overnight bag and stay at the other person’s house, doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship. Or just because you have a toothbrush at the other person’s house doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship with this person. If it hasn’t been openly discussed then don’t assume that you are in a relationship, because we all know what happens when people assume.

You may be in a “situation” if you are doing the aforementioned things and you never discussed your status with the other person. Ladies, and men too, don’t be too quick to change your relationship status on Facebook to “in a relationship” if you haven’t discussed it with the other person who is in this “alleged” relationship because you may be in for a rude awakening.

Now on the other hand, if it has been discussed by both partners and it’s mutually agreed that you all are in a “situation” and not a “relationship” and you are satisfied with that status then that is fine too. But if you are unsure of your current status them maybe it’s time you have that relationship discussion with the other person so you know exactly where you stand with that person, instead of assuming.

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Don’t Carry Someone Else’s Baggage!

I attended a very interesting women’s empowerment luncheon the other day and the speaker made a statement that resonated with me. To quote her she said, “Don’t carry someone’s baggage”. Just to put this in context she was referencing the business world, but I immediately thought this could be applied to personal relationships too.

The question that lead to this response was “How do you prepare yourself for a meeting with a manager that you know have preconceive notions about you or someone like you, whether it’s because of your age, gender, race, sexual preference, etc?” You don’t, you don’t allow their preconceive notions change the true you and your agenda, in essence don’t carry their baggage.

This train of thought can be easily applied to our personal relationships. Sometimes we try to change who we are to gain another person’s trust or love because they have preconceive notions about us. If someone loves you then they will love you for you, period. You should never change the true you just because someone can’t handle or respect what you represent. Because if that’s the case then they don’t deserve you in the first place!


Some men have certain ideas about certain women; independent woman, overweight women, soft spoken women, provocatively dress women, and the list goes on. This doesn’t mean they don’t have a right to their opinions, but they do need to acknowledge facts and let the woman’s actions speak for themselves before they decide to place her in a general box.

Bottom line is this, you can’t always make someone change the way they think, but you can definitely educated them on the true you! Never carry someone’s baggage because it will only chip away at your true authenticity!



I’m just saying!

C Double R!

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LEARN TO KEEP YOUR STUFF TO YOURSELF!!!

Ladies this is a very important topic. I know how it is when you first meet a guy who you think is fione as all get out and you get butterflies in your stomach when you see his name come up on your caller id or when you see his car pull up in front of your house. The first thing you say to yourself is “he can get it!” Well ladies I am here to tell you, pump the brakes!


I have learned through experience and from conversations with other women when you learn the value of keeping your stuff to yourself it’s priceless. A man will do all he can to get you in the bed if he is really feeling you physically. He will wine and dine you, take you shopping, fix things around your house, take you on trips, basically anything when he is in pursuit of the booty.

A smart woman knows the power of the “Untapped Wanted Booty” and she will use it to her advantage. Now this is not to say she is not feeling the dude but she knows the value of her body and she will not just give it to the first dude that is interested and is willing to do anything to get it. However, this doesn’t mean she won’t use it to her advantage either. However, in the interim a smart woman will also find out if dude is just interested in her booty or her being. An intelligent woman knows what the deal is. However, a smart and conniving woman will play this game for as long as she can or until dude realizes that he is just being played. So fellas just some words of advice “Game recognizes game” so make sure yours is tight.

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Men Are Territorial Creatures Who Like to Roam Outside Their Territory!

This article is dedicated to someone I know. You know who you are.

We all know that men are territorial creatures, but most men like to roam quite frequently outside their territory. However, they like to keep their possessions (women) well within their parameter. When I say possessions I am referring to their mate, love one, wife, fiancée, girlfriend, woman, better half, however one would like to define a man’s significant other.

I read the other day that Sean “Puffy” Combs threaten to kill one of Kim Porter’s male friends if he didn’t stay away from her. Now let’s break this down, shall we. Puffy is known for his philandering ways and for not marrying Kim Porter, even though she is the mother of 3 of his children. She has repeatedly stood by this man’s side while he has had relationships with Jennifer Lopez and Cassidy, just to name a few. So who is to blame for his behavior, Kim or him?

It is known that he pays Kim very handsomely for the children and also gives her extra loot to keep her as a “kept woman”, with one stipulation, she can’t fool around. Apparently she condones this behavior because she has been in the background for years and it looks like she will always be around, never as the leading lady, but always as a supporting cast member.

I guess when it comes to money one may never really know how they might respond to certain demands placed upon them. But I have to ask the question, “What about self pride and getting a damn backbone?” What example is Kim setting for her children, especially her two beautiful daughters when she allows herself to be used as a doormat?

Women, I said it before and I will say it again, KNOW YOUR SELF WORTH! Because if you don’t acknowledge it, embrace it, and enforce it, then no one else will. Always remember you have the power and no one can ever take it away from you unless you give it away!

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Do Social Media Networks Cause Problems or Uncover Them in Relationships?

“Facebook ruined my relationship, I found out my boyfriend was cheating on Twitter, I hate social media networks because they create relationship problems!” These are some of the things I am sure all of us have heard from someone who uses social media networking sites. But the question is, “Do Social media networks cause problems or uncover them in relationships?”


I have to go with the latter. I believe they uncover existing problems in relationships. I don’t think social media networks change people actions they just make them more pronounce. What was once done in the dark will be revealed in the light, and social media networks my friends is the “light”.

Social media networks are not the only “frenemy” to cheating mates, but so are cell phones. With cameras, videos and everything else that is attached to cell phones today could make a recipe for a disastrous outcome for cheating mates. It’s your friend when you want to communicate with your mistress, but it’s your enemy when your mate discovers your communications with your mistress via the social networks or cell phone. This goes for women too, not just cheating men.

So, again in my opinion, I think social media networks bring the dirt to the forefront and make it harder for the “cheaters” to hide their cheating ways. Also, for you cheaters, if you don’t want to be put on blast I suggest you don’t have your mistress as a friend on your social media network page and for pete sakes please do not take compromising photos that can eventually end up on social media networks or delivered to your mate’s cell phone!

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

How To Tell If She or He is Just Not Into You!

Ladies, men too, do you only get a phone call when your mate is feeling frisky and needs to release some tension? Or always have an emergency and they need you to come get them, loan them some money or take them somewhere, but don’t need you to stay? If you answered yes to more than one of these scenarios consider yourself as being used!


Do you find that you are the one that is always giving and not receiving ( sexually, emotionally, physically, and monetary)? The only one who goes out their way to do something nice for your mate? Or the only one that is fulfilling your partner’s needs and it is not reciprocated? Again, consider yourself as being used!

Does he or she always seem to make up excuses as to why they can’t do anything for you, such as they can’t come get you because their car is down, they can’t help you out financially because they don’t get paid until Friday or they have child support money due, or come up with an excuse to break a date because it’s their turn to pay? Need I say it again, consider yourself as being used!

If they are always coming up with excuses for you to give them money, or you all have a joint bank account and you are the only one putting money in it and they are always taking money out of it, close that damn account immediately! Take charge of your life and stop trying to buy love.

I said it before and I will say it again, read the signs people. A relationship is all about reciprocity. If you find yourself always the one giving and never receiving then it’s not a relationship it’s a charity and guess who is making all of the donations? You!

I’m just saying.

C Double R!

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Loved Up, But Not Wifed Up!

Ladies have you ever fell into the “wait until” trap with your man? Wait until I finish school, wait until we buy the house, wait until I get the promotion, wait until I get my divorce? Yes, women will actually stay with a man for years even though she knows he is still married in the hopes that one day he will get a divorce and marry her. Why do so many women fall for the “wait until” game?


The kicker is when the man says “I’m not going nowhere and neither are you so what’s the rush?” WTF!! Are you serious? That’s even more of a reason for him to put a ring on it! A woman will stay with a man for years, have babies for him, buy a house with him and he will never marry her you know why? Because she has already given him everything that a married coupled give each other which mean he doesn’t have any motivation to marry her. I’m just saying!!

Ladies stop playing house and stop putting the cart in front of the horse, make him work for your love. Put your foot down and if that means that you have to remove yourself from the situation to make him realize how lucky HE is to have you as his woman then do it! This is easier said than done, but in the end it is all worth it because at the end of the day you will know if the whole relationship is really worth your time and energy and if that man really loves you like he says he does.

If you are good enough to “portray” the image of the wife by living together, having kids together supporting him emotionally, spiritually and even financially then you should be good enough for him to put a ring on it and make it official and be called the Mrs. and not my lady, girl, love of my life, girlfriend or fiancée!

There is a huge difference between being the Mrs. and the girlfriend/fiancée. When a man introduces his woman as his wife there is an instant respect factor from other women as oppose to him introducing her as his lady or fiancée. Here’s some real talk, if you have a good man and other women know it and if you are not his wife then they see him as “still available”. If you don’t appreciate your worth and don’t make him wife you up then another “smart” woman will because she knows her worth just like she knows his.

I’m just saying!


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